Sympathy Flowers

[torthecatlady]

My uncle died this evening after a long illness. He was 88. His wife (my df's sister), roughly same age and very old-fashioned / traditional. I would like to send some flowers, but I'm not really sure of what to write on the card? It needs to have a personal touch as he was a close member of family but I have no idea how to word it.

I haven't rung her as she is very upset and has her children (my cousins, who are my df's age) around her. I just feel like it's not the best time. But will be calling her on the weekend.

They live about 5 hours away, so unfortunately we don't see a lot of each other, but I will be attending the funeral.

I'm rambling a bit, but basically can someone help me write a nice message which shows I'm thinking of her? Also, do I address it to just her, her and family (which seems weird as I'm family) or to her and her children by name?

I also have a card to send so will need to think of something for that too. I don't want to it to appear cold and heartless

well if sending a sympathy card as well I would only put a brief message on the little card with a nice bouquet, such as So sorry to hear the news, thinking of you xx' and address that to your Aunt.
The sympathy card can be more personal referring to your uncle by name and that you will be in touch re the funeral arrangements and maybe your contact details should the family need to get in touch. Address that to your aunt and family.
At the funeral I'd take flowers with a card that speaks to your Uncle e.g. Remebering happier days gone by when we did xyz. Followed by Rest in Peace.

Don't know if there's an 'etiquette' but that's what I did in similar circumstances.
Sorry for your loss x