Best friend died and no one is supportive

[Louise1986]

I lost my best friend suddenly last year, she was only 31 and I’d been maid of honour at her wedding on a few months before she passed. I feel like no one allows me to be upset by this as it’s not a relative – I was allowed no time off work and my boyfriend acts like it never happened. When I tried to talk to him about it he simply sad ‘you don’t seem that sad’ – which I find hard as grief isn’t a case of crying all the time. Sometimes I’m up and sometimes I’m down. It’s coming up to the year anniversary of her death and it is bringing back all types of feelings. I just don’t know who to talk to and feel let down by everyone – especially my partner. Has anyone else lost someone like this so young?

OP. It's so hard. My best friend died 10 years ago next month and I still miss her so much. Still feels like she could walk in the room and we'd pick up like she'd never gone away.

I would feel let down if DH didn't get it. He was my rock in the early days. I think sometimes if people haven't experienced a close death (which of course doesn't have to be family) they don't get it. But you're telling him you're struggling!

Talk away here, but I feel like your "D"P should be supporting you too. Did you have any mutual friends who'll be missing her too?

I completely understand! I lost my best friend to suicide last May and feel that I can’t show how devastated I really am. My dh didn’t even come home from working away so I could go to her funeral without organising childcare for my young dc. I miss her so so much and I feel the same as you - no one understands. She was like my sister. I’m here anytime if you need to talk op xx

I'm so sorry about your friend Louise,it doesn't matter if you were related or not ,she was your friend & you loved her ,of course you will still be grieving.

I've come to realise that until a person has experienced the death of someone they truly love (related or not) then a lot can't empathise at all .

Remember your friend & talk with her family,I get they will really appreciate it