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How to choose a resting place (Cemetery)

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AliceRR · 16/02/2019 21:03

I have posted a separate thread about my baby girl who was born sleeping earlier this week at 40 weeks.

I also wanted to ask if anyone had any help with how to choose a resting place for her.

We are moving house next month and I would like her to be buried near where we will be living. There are two places we know of. Both are about 2 miles from the new house.

The first is the main cemetery near to where we plan to live. Not massive but bigger than the second cemetery I will mention and a very traditional looking cemetery with lots of graves.

The second is much smaller and more open. One of the funeral directors I spoke to suggested it as he said it’s just as close as the first one to where we will live but said it’s very nice and open and overlooks farmland. It is like a small(ish park) with rows of graves from the back of the area to about the centre. It’s very open and light and in a really nice area.

DH preferred the first on as it reminded him of the cemetery opposite his parents’ house that he grew up in.

I’m not sure. I thought he would have chosen the second, smaller one, but he didn’t. Maybe I would have.

Are there any other considerations I should be thinking of? There equal distance and both nice cemeteries, as far as they can be nice. The second one is closer to my parents house although they are thinking of moving too so I don’t want that to be a deciding factor

Thank you

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mellongoose · 17/02/2019 12:08

I think if you have no strong feelings either way on this and your DH does, I would be inclined to give him this.

If that thought makes you feel uncomfortable, try to work out why and then explain to DH. It might make you realise that your choice 'just feels' better and that is also really important. Thanks

AliceRR · 17/02/2019 20:20

Thanks @mellongoose

I don’t mind giving this to DH if he has stronger feelings and I feel more inclined to go with what he thinks in a way

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