How do I stop wanting to go home?

[ssd]

I have a home, with dh and almost grown up dcs.
But I so deeply crave going home to my mum and dad's house and it's all gone, they are gone.
I've not been parented myself for so many years, long before mum died, dad died years before.
Mum died over 6 years ago and I'm still really craving going home, it's like an incurable homesickness. I don't tell anyone, I'm embarrassed to be so needy. I have siblings but we aren't close at all they live 100s of miles away and weren't close to mum the way I was.
I just want this ache to go home to stop.

I’m sorry, that sounds really hard, to be missing your mum and your home so much.

Please don’t be embarrassed to talk about it here. I suspect there will lot of other MNers who feel the same.

Thanks
I'm a old regular poster on the thread about being supported after losing your parents but I don't post there as much now I don't want to upset posters more recently bereaved

I feel exactly the same as you. My DF is still in my childhood home, but he has a new family now and I feel like a guest there. DM died 13 years ago and sometimes I just ache with wanting to go home- not to the house, but to that place, as it was.

There is a Welsh word hiraeth that describes just that feeling. Sometimes I find it totally overwhelming.

It is overwhelming sometimes.
Am sorry others feel it too.

It is over whelming. I ache for my mum, my old house, my life sometimes, ok one minute then the next it's like you've been kicked in the gut. Sorry you feel this way

Thanks Betty. And thanks for that book you sent me, it made me feel less alone

I'm glad I could help, even if just in a tiny way

Ssd. I remember you from several years ago on that thread although I was possibly using a different name. I know how you feel. I'd doesn't get easier, it just changes over time. I don't miss a specific place so much but there is an element of loneliness now which wasn't there before. And on the days you need someone to look after you and to make you feel safe, its harder to find. You're not alone xx