ttc 31/2 years just had 5th loss-any success stories?

[slottie]

Hi everyone, I am looking for any inspirational stories to give me the strength to move forward after my 5th consecutive loss. I had a miscarriage on June 11th at 12 weeks although the baby had died at 10+2 weeks.We have been ttc for 3 1/2 gruelling years.It took 2 years for us to get pregnant in the very first instance.The hospital staff were very dismissive of my m/c-when I asked for a recurrent m/c referral they said the consultant wouldnt see us because we were young (im 36??), the baby looked fine (ha-except it was dead) and we hadn't been trying that long(over 3 years?).Anyway we have paid to see a consultant and may now be finally getting a referral to St Mary's. Has anyone else been here and had a real live baby at the end? I feel so depressed I am begining to wonder if I will ever take part in normal life again.My sister is due 4 weeks before I was and my friend has the same due date, they are on their 2nd babies since I started.I don't have a single childless/childfree friend and am struggling to operate in the fertile world anymore.
Sorry for the pity party and thanks x

oh Slottie i'm so sorry. My friend just recently had her baby daughter after many years of trying to conceive and numerous m/c. She was referred to St Mary's and she truly believes if it wasn't for them she would neveere have had her baby girl. I hope you get the help you so obviously need, and that someone listens to you. Wishing you lot's of luck.

I am very sorry for your loss, how awful. I have a few friends and friends of friends who have experienced 3+ miscarriages and have been referred to St Marys who have ALL gone on to have healthy pregnancies/children from being prescribed the necessary medication/injections needed to thin the blood and sustain the pregnancy. Please don't give up hope and be strong to get through the pain. Proff Lesley Regan is FANTASTIC and has the answers and will help you get preg and go on to have a baby. Shame on the hosp staff who were dismissive.

Best of luck and hope you get an appt soon.

Just felt it was impossible not to post really. Had 3 miscarriages and 2 ectopics. So 5 unsuccessful pregnancies in total. DD was the result of the sixth pregnancy and DS the result of the seventh. My heart goes out to you. Courage xxx

Slottie I am so sorry. I have 'only' had 3 mc, only two of those consecutive, and have a child, but am well acquainted with the misery of mc - I am very sorry for all your losses.

I hope St Mary's can give you hope. I take it you have Lesley Regan's book? If not, it's well worth a read.

Slottie..................

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I am so sorry to hear of you losses.

I have also had 5 m/c's in 3 years of trying.

in this time I have undergone sooooooooooo
many tests and nothing has been found. I have what is known as 'thick blood' which basically means with any future pregnancy I have I will have to have daily heparin jabs and baby aspirin. This was diagnosed after pregnancy 3. nothing has worked so far.
I have now lost seven stone in weight since last august and am hoping to start trying again this august.

Who are you seeing at St Marys. i see Prof Raj Rai and of course Lesley Reagan.
I mst admit I am slightly pissed off that there is nothing they can do but as Prof reagan said this is a good thing. I have found the whole process quite draining as I was diagnosed with a uterus with a slight kink in it and fibroids. they originally said they would operate on both but then the doc who was going to do the op said NO. She stated tat this was not the cause of my m/c's.
I have an appointment at St Mary on tuesday just for a chat and weigh in.

Me and DH plan on trying again next month.

I really wish you all the best.
I know it's hard but try and stay positive. I am still convinced that one day I will hold my own baby in my arms.....

Iam here if you want to chat..........

Thank-you all so much for your kind messages and words of hope.What a lovely group of women you are.I am sorry for all of you who have also endured losses, I think any amount is heartbreaking.Congratulations to those of you that battled on to have children, definately inspirational.

I have just read Lesley Regan's book, which is very informative. I had been taking 75mg of aspirin (after researching on the net) and managed to get further along in this pregnancy than I have before, so I am wondering about the possibility of antiphospholipid anitbodies.

Oinker- I haven't yet got a referral so I don't know who i'll see.I'm not sure how long the waiting list is.We paid for a private consultation to get the referral.I am so sorry for what you have been through.It must have been awful to get a diagnosis only to miscarry again.I am very fearful of that.Has your weight loss been deliberate or as a result of stress?I have put on quite a bit of weight since my 1st miscarriage, it's like I sub-conciously want to keep my tummy fat.I am now just getting back to thinking about healthy eating and punishing myself with food.Good Luck next month.

Once agin thank-you all x

oops sorry i meant NOT punishing myself with food (overeating).Sorry I sound a bit bonkers.

Slottie, my dd is almost 5 and I was 37 at the time of conception and my ob told me to take 75mg of baby asprin everyday. I did the same with my subsequent pregnancy (ds almost 4) and then most recently for my twin pregnancy. It is a precaution, does no harm as the dosage is so small and has no side effects. Just want to reassure you.

Slottie..........

The weight loss is deliberate as it can be the only factor as to why I miscarry.

Like you I put on so much weight from the time of first m/c. I wanted my belly to look big so I would beleive that I looked pregnant and forget my problems.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Be very careful with self medicating. I may have misundestood you... Are you currently taking baby aspirin? Have you been diagnosed with Factor V Leiben (thick blood)I think that's what it's called! I am hopeless at remembering terminologies etc...

Hi Oinker, Thanks for replyIng, yes I have started taking 75mg of aspirin after my last miscarriage ,last 4 were all before 7 1/2 weeks, and this one lasted quite a lot longer. I haven't been diagnosed with any blood clotting disorders as yet, I'm still waiting to be called up for the blood tests. Ive read that 75mg shouldn't do any harm.

Congratulations on your weight loss, thats fantastic. I am about to embark on yet another diet as I have gained an extra 1/2 stone since I got pregnant this time!I hope this is what your body needs to carry to term this time-the best of luck!

LilyLoo- sorry I meant to ask before, was your friend diagnosed with a reason for her miscarriages?

Thanks again x