Reaching out to someone many years after the death of their child

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I'm sorry if this seems strange or upsets anyone but I know I would get honest opinion here. 40 years ago my best friend died. We were both 6. My parents stayed in contact with here family and I know they spoke of her and had photos up. I have not seen them since I was about 10. I have always remembered things about her. Snippets of things like her laugh, I have a clear memory of swinging next to her in their garden. As i have got older and had my own family I have realized how much it matters to people who have lost children they are not forgotten. Is it too late to let them know I remember her and think of her ? They will be old now and I don't want them upset but it might help them to know she is still in my heart and mind to this day.

I dont think anyone in their right mind would be offended or think u mean anything bad for reaching out, instead I think they'd want to know their daughter had such an impact on you, what could be more lovely! X

I think it’s a really lovely idea.

It will always be upsetting, but I think after all this time they'll be able to hear your lovely memories, other than that Im sure you'll have memories of them too which I'm sure they'll appreciate x

From my own experience of having people remember the dead, it is always welcome. Agree that it might upset in the sense of bringing tears, but better by far than the silence.

A lovely idea.

If it was me I would love to hear from you, do it

This would be a lovely thing to do!
As long as you make the initial approaches gently and sensitively, your memories of their daughter and the knowledge that she has not been forgotten would be incredibly precious to them.

I agree with PPs. Yes, it may bring emotions to the surface, but that isn't a bad thing and I'm sure they will be so glad that you still hold their daughter in your heart.

I have lost a child. If I were those parents I would be very touched and grateful to hear from you.
It is less than 3 years since I lost my child and already people are moving on and forgetting. I know I have no right to expect anything else, but it is distressing.

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My brother dies 35 years ago.
If his friends were to contact me now to share their memories with me I would be extremely comforted.

Yes, OP - please do it. X