just need to vent following m/c this weekend

[Sprogstersmum]

We didn't tell anyone and don't know if I want to talk to anyone in real life - just carrying on as normal but feel so down, so sad, so angry. DP is trying his best but not v emotional type and seems to think it is no big deal. I just want the next few weeks to go past so we can start trying again but know how stressful I find it - had taken 6 months till this pregnancy and the thought of another 6 months or longer depresses me. It's DD's 2nd birthday in a couple of weeks and I was all excited about her party and now I just feel so miserable - it's not fair on her either cos I'm all short tempered now with her and it's not her fault. Agghhh! I just don't know what to do. Am SAHM and normally see friends and family but this week the diary is empty so potentially face a week and half before I speak to anyone who isn't DP, who is at work most of the time anyrate. But not sure if I want to see people or not but still need to amuse DD all week. I just needed to write all this down to try and let it out somehow.

I'm so sorry about your loss. Is there anyone in rl you might consider telling? A friend you can meet up with this week and just have a good cry with? It might help more than you think.

Aww..I know exactly how you feel. My last mc started on 26/5/07 and I've only just stopped on and off bleeding.

The trouble is the minute you get pregnant you feel 'special' like you have an extra reason to get up in the morning..and even when it's a secret, it make syou and DP feel close, sharing that.

When the dream is over you can find it hard to remember what made you happy before the pregnancy, but give yourself time - you will. Take it easy on yourself, a mc is enmotionally draining - don't expect to be emotionally well straight away just because the physical part is over.

Enjoy your little girl - like you said, she has no idea why you're disapointed right now.

Hope she has a good party and that you can enjoy celebrating your little girl;s 2nd anniversary of coming into this world, with a smile.

So sorry to hear your news. Of course you feel miserable, and it will take time to start feeling brighter. I found it easier after talking to people about it, helped get it all out of my system. If you don't want to talk to friends/family, then perhaps speak to your GP? Also think through in your own mind why you don't want to talk to anyone in RL about it. If you still don't want to, then fine, but at least don't close it off as an option.

Sprogstersmum - I've been there, if you want to chat do CAT me. The strange thing I found with rl is that there are so many other mothers out there who have been through this. You don't find this out until you start opening up about it - but if you can't/don't want to do that in rl, there are many many women on here who have also been through what must rate as one of the most awful periods of my life. You have both sympathy and empathy from me.

Hi there, I'm really sorry to hear about this. Just been/going through the same hting myself.

From everything I've been told and read, it might not take you another 6 months to get pregnant again...there's no way of knowing, is there? I know it's hard to be positive and I feel exactly the same as you, I just want to start trying again asap.

Hang on in there. xxx

Thanks for all your messages - feeling a bit better now - not exactly jumping for joy or anything but not so depressed and gearing up for DD's party now - just need the weather to improve!

I had a chemical pregnancy last month and feel the same now
rain rain rain, just keep hoping each month, takes it out of you, yet so difficult to share with people
sending you some positive vibes
and hopefully some sunshine