2 year anniversary do you still miss your DM?

[starshine1926]

Today is the second anniversary of DM passing. The first year was awful, the second has been better as I've got used to the new 'normal'.

However, it's been bloody hard getting to this point, not helped by the 'DP' who has been an unsupportive wanker who left me on my own for my first Xmas without DM (she died 3 weeks before Xmas). That first Xmas was hell but I survived with the help of friends and .

Unfortunately, I have no siblings to support me and no kids to distract me so feel very much the 'orphan'. I can't rely on the DP as we have split up a few times this year. Thank God for friends. I have also had some counselling which helped.
So what do you do when you have lost your go to person in life? I cope day to day and am actually beginning to enjoy life again. But I feel so so sad that I will never see or speak to DM again and some songs on the radio can reduce me to tears.
I've realised I've got to try and accommodate that feeling of missing her.

I've also struggled with the sheer cruelty of her last few years. What she experienced was unbelievable, a combination of things which nearly broke me.

to anyone who has joined this awful club. It does get better but life will never be quite the same again.

I lost my mum earlier in the year so am coming up to first Christmas without her. It's hard. I've also found counselling and support from friends a great comfort.

It's 6 years for me. Life is bearable again but I miss her as much today as I did yesterday. Like you op my Mam was my go to person. She was unique. She was a pain in the arse sometimes but she was mine.
I was 30 when she died and all I could think was I could have 50 more years of life without her. The pain was indescribable.
I don't have any words of wisdom but I can say I know how you feel x

My DM died in January and I still can’t believe it, it feels so unreal. I just can’t get my head round it. I’m dreading Christmas and just want it to be over as quickly as possible.

I'm just past 2 years too. Accepting the new normal, but still very sad. I feel permanently changed by this loss. I've lost a little joy.
I was very close to mine and am LC with my Dad (they were divorced) and I too feel like I've lost the person I most frequently turned to, just to chat, eat cake and do on. I think I will always miss her.

My dm died very suddenly 15 months ag and I completely understand what you say. I am forever changed by the events around her death and will always miss her.

Hugs to all of you. I know there is no quick fix for grief. I’m still grieving my DH after 27 years.
But one thing I would say to all of you - don’t let your mother’s death be more than her life. In other words, don’t let the grief over her death block out all the lovely memories you have of the time you were privileged to share with her.
I had a shit mother who was a selfish narcissist and never loved me. I would have gladly danced on her grave, and shed not a tear over her death.
But I envy you your grief.
Because you had the one thing every child wants, and I never had. A mum who loved you.
May God bless and comfort all of you, and hold your mums in His loving hands until you meet again.

My DM died 25 years ago and I still miss her, I was 24, I'm sad she never got to meet DP, sad she never saw my kids, also feel the orphan as siblings live away and DF also died 10 years ago. Sorry to say to you I never stop missing her after all this time, have learnt to live without her I suppose but other grand parents collecting their DC from school is a painful reminder. First few years are the worst, not wanting the awkward moments when you have a conversation with someone who assumes your parents are alive, until you let on. As I've got older this has got easier as at my age now no one assumes I've still got my parents around. for everyone on here without their mum.

My DM was killed in a car accident (not her fault) aged 69 two years ago, I'd already lost my DF aged 54 some years ago. I still miss them both everyday and I'm more angry now than I ever was. I'm 46 with no parents and feel it most this time of year. PIL inane faffing and fussing over nothing makes me resentful and drives me insane. I'm hoping it will get easier.