Friends suicide

[MissCalamity]

Shit, I've just heard a friend committed suicide last night. He's a mutual friend of both DP & I.
I want to send a message to his girlfriend but don't have a clue what to say, the news came from her best friend who works at the same place I do, but I have heard this second hand (another friend at work called me to tell me) as I am not in work today.
Should I just wait until tomorrow & speak to gf's best mate?
God, I just can't believe it.

Ring het up, don't text, give her the opportunity to talk if she wants to.

I'm going to say the opposite, when you text you give her the chance to reply when she feels able. If you don't know what to say, then say you don't know, if you want to offer help offer something you could do rather than just saying if theres anything I can do let me know.

If you want to offer support keep in touch often, even if shes not answering. People tend to be all over in the begining and then drift away, probably because they feel awkward. My friend lost a lot of friends, and she really apprechiates the people who have stayed in touch even if it's just a weekly whats happening with you text, and the people who have stayed in touch haven't been the people she would have expected them to be.

I appreciate your comments, I messaged in the end and went round to see her over the weekend. My DP has gone tonight.

I'm so angry with my friend for doing this to her and his mum Our group of friends are all rallying round, which is so nice to be all looking out for each other.