How to help a teenager with bereavement

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Ok as the title my ds has recently lost he grandma. He is a teenager and is really struggling. There has been no tears just anger and lots of abuse from him. I know everyone deals with grief separately but I'm out of my depth . He won't speak to me. I've just said to him I'm here if you need me offered chances to talk to me or his dad and left it as that.

I'd give him space. I have a 15 and 14yo DS and sometimes I think they just need a bit of room to think.

I can say what i have done for my ds. He's 14 and dh died nine months ago.

Forced him to meet with the counsellor once at school (crossed my fingrs they would click, which they did and they have met regularly ever since). Talked regularly about memories of his dad and our history as a family. Talked about my own grief. Obviously i had some time off work initially so i have tried to have occasional days/times where it's just us doing fun stuff together.

You're tge grown up. It is affecting him however much he denies it. He won't always feel like this, he might not realise that.

He just come to me and sat with me for a while which is nice even tho we didn't really speak and just watched telly.

Op have a look at grief cycle. It might be able to help you to understand what he’s going through and support him to get through it
grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

My 17 year old son witnessed one of his friends run over and killed earlier this year and it has been very difficult. We found a highly recommended counsellor who specialised in trauma counselling but he would not see her. We have just left the offer open that if he wants to speak to her he just needs to let us know. He has gained a lot of support from his friendship group. I have no doubt it will hit him at some point in the future and he will need professional help. He has seen support worker through college. All you can do is be ready to listen if/ when he wants to talk. My children have also lost 3 out of four grandparents ( all suddenly) in the past ten years.