I feel like my mum is alive

[gotnoideawhen]

She died ages ago.

I can't explain it but recently i had a very strong sense she was still alive. I felt like one of us was just away on holiday or similar and I had all these things I wanted to ask and tell her.

I still feel like that but she's dead and it's like being bereaved every day. I can't cope. What the fuck is wrong with me?

Did you process it properly when she died? Maybe you're experiencing delayed grief?

Sorry for your loss.

When someone dies, you just have to believe what comforts you most, I think. Ime, grief suddenly comes in waves, usually when I'm tired, upset, stressed or worried about something else. Then I get distracted by other things, and it peters out for a bit.

However, you seem to find it upsetting to think that your mum is still alive - maybe you have unfinished business, like Strawberry says?

It's a bit embarrassing to admit it, but I have 'talked' to my mum since she died, over 25 years ago. It's not great, but 'talking' through my issues in imaginary conversations with my own dear departed sometimes works for me.

Do you have siblings you could talk to?

Hope things get better for you soon.

So sorry, OP.

What do you mean by "ages ago"?

Not sure about what is "normal", but know that I feel this the majority of the time about my DSis, who died 2 years ago. I cannot take it in that she is dead, and spend 90% of the time feeling and acting like she is just in another city.

Allow yourself to believe that if it brings you comfort.
My mum passed away 3 years ago and if she were to walk in now it'd be like she'd never been away.

I know what you mean. I imagine my dead relatives living their lives too. But maybe overseas. I also picture my parent’s career and life even though they are alive but severely disabled and bedbound