How to tell people I need suppport

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My mum died recently, I'm young as was she and I'm the first person in my friends to lose a parent. Everyone has been very sorry but then I've had radio silence. How can I ask for support knowing everyone is busy with their own families. I feel like I'm drowning and having trouble looking after my own dc. What do I need to do?

Firtsly, I am sorry for your loss.

I think there are two separate things. One is about coming to terms with your grief. Are you able to access a support group - maybe through a hospice or a charity of whatever it was she died from? Or ask at your GP surgery, or even ask your HV if you have little ones.

Then, on a practical level, you tend to need to ask people to do a specific task for you,if you need help. People don't know what to do if you dno't tell them what you are struggling with.

So sorry. I think people don't know what to do, so think they're giving you space. Maybe a text to your closest mates saying "I'm struggling and could do with a hand hold", talk to them about your mum xxx

I agree with pp, people don't know what to do. I would suggest ask them and be specific eg 'I'm feeling rubbish. Could really do with a chat over a cup of tea, are you free today or tomorrow?'
Or 'I have to organise flowers for funeral, and could do with some moral support, would you come with me please. Need to go Monday or Tuesday?'
If I were one of your friends I would be honoured to be asked and very happy to help practically or emotionally.

redcaryellowcar's advice looks good. The specificity means friends will feel free to talk with you about things they, up now, can only guess.

So sorry for your loss, Changed