Am I being inconsiderate?

[aquababe]

I was planning on trying to concieve no2 next week but two of my friends have just suffered mcs. my best friend at 10weeks and another good friend at 8 months I feel very sad for both my friends as they had both been trying for sometime to concieve. If I go ahead and get myself pregnant so soon is it being inconsiderate.
The last thing I want to do is make what my friends are going through any harder, but I really did want to start trying for another baby.

how would you feel?

I don't think you can put your life on hold because of the tragedy of friends .. what if you have problems conceiving?

Oh and just as a word of caution I wouldn't refer to an 8 month still-birth as a 'miscarriage' I don't think

Firstly, it could take you months to conceive and even then you don't have to announce it immediately.
You can't put your own life and family on hold because of their losses and i'm sure they wouldn't want you to!

crossed post Twiglett. Both saying the same thing.

Agree with Twiglett re the still birth. 8 months isn't a miscarriage and I wouldn't refer to it as such.

I wouldn't change my plans either, you could have problems yourself.

Aqua, I think that you are a lovely friend for considering your friends, but you cannot put your life on hold for them and I'm sure they wouldn't want you to. Imagine what you'd want if the tables were turned - you'd want your friend to be happy.

Yes, it will be hard for them, BUT (and I speak from experience here) when you have lost a baby it feels as though all you see is pregnant women. When you have conceived (as the others said, it may take a while) and feel ready to tell them, then maybe tell them that you are concerned for them and wish that things were different. They will not resent you for being pregnant.

sorry her dh refered to it as that yesterday so I thought it was ok. will remember for the funeral. big thanks

sorry I didn't mean to imply anything other than its a sensitive term .. it was a warning not an admonishment, I hope you understand.

I'd much rather you point it out than say the wrong thing at the funeral in a few days time. Have now checked out a website on things not to say or be careful around.