How did you deal with the loss of a loved one?

[Mamioftwo]

Hey,

My dear father passed away in March this year. Although he was very ill for years and we expected this would happen.. I really didn't ! I guess I portray my parents as being invincible.. and it hit me like a ton of bricks, when I found out of his passing. There's a lot of guilt mostly, and I know it's a stage of grieving, but it SUCKS!

I feel like I let him down and wasn't the best daughter I could have been .. it's almost 6 months and I don't feel it getting better. When I'm distracted with other things I don't think about him.. but it's when I'm alone, and I feel the pain crashing through me, like it was yesterday.

How did you deal with the loss of a loved one?
Was there anything in particular that helped you?

I know everyone has a different mourning process, but I'm curious to hear about it.

Thanks xxx

Sorry for your loss. I didn't want to leave you unanswered, but I have to say, you are right - we are all different and cope or deal with death differently.
One thing I think is true is that you need to acknowledge that you do need to grieve. that is is natural, and perfectly okay to get upset.
When first my Mum, and then my Dad died, we (my siblings and I) tended to avoid mentioning them, for fear of upsetting one another or 'setting one of us off', but we came to realise, that actually talking about them - both to say 'do you remember when....?' and also to acknowledge that we missed them today for some particular reason, was a good thing.

Don't try and avoid things or places or occasions - go through all the 'firsts' this year, and the 2nds year will be slightly easier, IME.

Hi there sorry for your loss.My dear Dad died last year and I was.dreadng it as.Dad was a.family man and although I'm in my 50s I couldnt imagine life without him.Anyway I started a.New job and a month later he died.It sounded like a recipe for disaster new job bereavement and caring for Mum by trying to help her.Tbh it's been ok.I played my Dad music in the morning then worked until 10pm then bath and bed.My cat kept me company at night and my husband helped me buy plants for the garden in memory of dad.as
Basically I left the grief out alone and kept positive when I had too.Focus on happy times too.