Missing mum

[PajamasnoDramas]

I lost my mum a week ago today. I've had a few tears each day since but not like today, really struggling. She was my last parent to go.

Everything just feels so meaningless right now. I know it's better to keep busy but I just can't be bothered today. I think returning to work tomorrow probably isn't helping.

So sorry. I know how you feel.

Don't know if it's any help but my sister got signed off sick by her doctor after our mum died - might be worth a try if you don't feel up to going in

Hope you've got some rl support - it's a terrible time

I know how you feel. My mum passed 5 years ago and she was my remaining parent. If I’m honest, she was the only parent I had ever known. My dad died when I was a baby so she had been both parents.

I didn’t feel anything really until the funeral and then It hit hard and in waves. Some days I’d feel like I was found I was keeping afloat and doing ok. Other days I was drowning.

I’m so deeply sorry for your loss.
Please speak to your doctor and be signed off due to bereavement. Most doctors will be happy to do this if you are struggling and Work is making you feel overwhelmed.

Hello . This is so weird. I just thought to myself “ God I’m missing Mum so much” and my eye fell on this thread. Mum died two years ago. A week is no time at all. Grief is awful but you can find a lot of comfort here. I promise you it will get easier. Just lost my Dad too so it’s all horribly familiar to me. Try to comfort yourself with the fact that grief is a symptom of love.

So sorry. There's nothing anyone can say really to make it better. I do understand. My mum died 4 weeks ago and I'm also struggling massively right now. My house is a mess and I can't be bothered with anything.

I know nothing but my suggestion is to do what you can and be fairly busy, but if you struggle, take time off, with doctors note if necessary.
Your grief may not kick in for a while.

Thanks all for your lovely replies. I've got through two days at work now with the odd blub in the loo. I'll see how it goes as getting 'back to normal' - whatever the hell that is - may help. Have dr appt booked in for next week but am loathe to take sick leave as I had a couple of weeks sick leave last year.

I know I'll feel better in time, I got through DF's death. But there's so much to do with sorting out estate, admin etc. I have a sibling but he's really not much help.

Flaming Goat

I’m sorry OP; losing your mum is hard. You will need to find a new normal. Be kind to yourself💐

Me too, hurts so much