My precious son Alfie

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Some of you may have read my story about me and my boy Alfie I was 28 weeks pregnant and suffered a massive haemorrhage called placenta abruption way out of my control and was not my fault lucky to be here myself and Alfie lasted 6 precious heartbreaking days 💔 I am now facing the horrendous situation of the police now telling me my ex partner does not know our child has passed away..I had him arrested for assault and harassment at the hospital ?? He hasn't asked for 7 weeks about his son why now ???!! He knew he was very poorly! Not one family member has knocked on the door to ask if he's ok and now all of a sudden he wants to know ...How the F**k do they expect me or my family to tell him ...they know he's a bully manipulating controlling angry man and he hit me in the stomach when I was 8 weeks pregnant he also screamed in my face that it was my fault our son was poorly after me and Alfie nearly both died due to bleeding out and being starved of blood and oxygen for too long ...I now have to decide how I am going to do this ..I just can't believe it ..sorry for the rant but I'm so mad Ive been through so much and had to do it all on my own because he was a asshole even when I tried to let him in when I shouldn't! Any advice anyone I'm pulling my hair out over this whilst trying to grieve for my darling boy .......

I didn’t want to read and run.
Give the police a copy of the death certificate, let them deal with him/his family.
Just take care of yourself and ignor the rest.

I have no advice, but I'm so sorry for the loss of Alfie . I do hope the police can deal with this for you so that you are free to grieve.

I'm sorry you are in such a horrible situation. Let the police deal with him and do whatever you need to protect yourself.

So sorry to hear of your loss and troubles. Sincerely hope better times lie ahead for you.

Thankyou for your reply's everyone ...this is the best but the police rang me and said they think it's best coming from me ...are they shitting me they think it's best I tell him when they have just out alarms all over my house because of him ...wow ....

Sounds like they are trying to avoid face to face contact as well. Insist they do it or mail a copy of the certificate to him/family. Do the police have a SW that assists them?
Don’t engage with him.

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I didn't want to read and run, my little girl was born on 7th August at 24 weeks, she has sepsis and many other problems, I came to this board because it looks likely I may soon be in your position, minus the awful ex. I've been in an abusive relationship before, do whatever you can to keep that vile man away from you. I hope everything improves for you.

So sorry you are going through all of this at this time.

Phone the police back and tell them that as your exP assaulted you, you have absolutely no intention of getting in touch with him. If they want to it’s up to then. If he then turns up on your doorstep, do not answer and call them.

Please also make sure you get the support you need to see you through this awful time

Thats horrific that they say its best coming from you what planet are they on

Sorry for your loss

You should absolutely refuse to do this. You are well within your right to refuse given the circumstances.

If they wan't it done so badly, then they need to do it.

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. But really you need to focus on your grief and self healing right now, not him.
So like others have said, I’d either get the police to give him a copy of the death certificate, or if they won’t, just post one to them. That’s all you owe him. Move on (from him.)
Good luck for the future.