Counselling -should I go for it

[flossie64]

My Dad died 23/04 and I thought I wascoming to terms with it ,but I feel worse and worse as each day passes.I wonder if anyone has had any experince of breavment counselling and should I try it.
As some of you may have seen on previous threads I have had a bit of a traumatic yearand my Dad dying was just the final straw I think.
Worried that I will sinl into that pit of depression again if I dont' nip it in the bud.(can't let that happen I have been at the bottom of the barrel before and its bloody hard to get back to the top)

I think it would be a good idea.
I had some bereavement counselling a few years ago via my GP's surgery. The counsellor came to my house. I didn't really click with the first person who came round, so they sent someone else, who was fantastic.
It just helps talking to someone neutral and who is not emotionally involved with your life. They can see things more clearly sometimes.
Good luck, I hope you find it really helpful.

Thanks BS. Did you just go to docs and ask or did you have to have an appoinment with him first?

So sorry to hear about your Dad, flossie. I would say yes, def try counselling, but also that it is still very soon after your father's death to be able to make sense of it all. Painful as it is, you might want to wait a couple more months as counselling can be a bit more helpful after the inital shock has worn off. Take care, it takes a long time to come to terms with losing a parent, but it will get easier.

Poor you. I do think that, even though it's very early days in bereavement terms for you, it may be worth trying conselling if you're worried that the loss of your dad may be triggering clinical depression. It may also be worth (re)starting anti depressant medication if you haven't already. I think you should pay your GP a visit. And maybe try contacting these people for advice? I've heard good things about them.

I had an appointment with my GP first.

I lost my mum 12yrs ago so I have already been there in a sense .But this Jan my Bil had to be brought back after nearly dying in a car crash,Feb my Aunt had her breast off ,March my Fil died suddenly ,so as you can see its not just losing my dad.
Idon't want my DH or children to suffer cos I am losing the plot,I feel so out of control and low.

oh flossie.
You have had a lot to cope with.
I think it is worth going to see your GP, and discussing how you can be helped through this very difficult time.

I will phone the docs tomorrow and make an appointment , and ring CRUSE when they are open again although they don't seemto have a branch round here.
I am quite a strong person most of the time but when I do get down it seems to be big time i.e. manic episodes I suppose.
Not many of my friends even know I am struggling cos I just don't know what to say and I don't want to cry every time I go anywhere itss too embarassing.

Oh wow- you've been through such a lot. Poor you. If you've had depression before you really are at risk of another episode being triggered by all these very sad and diffcult things happening. I do think you should go to the GP, flossie, and discuss how to prevent/treat another episode.

x posted. I think that's a great plan, flossie. You sound like you know yourself really well and if you are worried then you need to get some help. I do think may be good to have a counselling space to let it all out, especially if you would find crying over your friends difficult.

flossie - Sorry to hear about what a time you're having hugs . Definitely recommend counselling as have had it to help in past when going through stress and have found

Would go to your GP/Cruse as others have advised as you want someone trained in bereavement counselling. I say that as some types of counselling can be about challenging/questioning you which is probably not appropriate given how you're feeling.

Hope you find someone to help

Thanks for all your support .
does anuone know how ,apprx , it takes to get a refferal to a counsellor?

not very long - i got appt 2 days later with bereavement one (ok this was through bupa) .Don't know about GPS but I would imagine if you stress urgency they could find you a space

Feel for you. I too have just been going thru a really bad spell, long story, but I am awaiting an appt to see a cousellor to help me talk about my sons death 13 years ago. Lots of things have happened in the last two weeks that have brought back all those raw painful memories, Hope you get some help soon. xx