Relations with dh's family after his death

[annandale]

I just wondered what people's experiences are.

There's a breach now between me and dh's brother and it feels harder to keep close to his parents. I wonder if things will get better as the first year passes.

@annandale this is a very regular topic among members of WAY (widowed and young). It's been a lifeline for me since DH died 2.5 years ago. There are lively local groups and v active FB group. My own relationships with in laws are good, better than with my own family, but it seems to be a tricky area for an awful lot of people. It is the hardest thing in the world to lose DH and in laws are such an important link, so I hope you find a way to keep it intact. The first year anniversary is so tough too. I hope you're doing ok. One day at a time. I hated people saying this at first, but it does get easier. Still have bad days but fewer. Take good care of yourself. Xx

Thanks Ditto, after reading your post I have finally joined, having ummed and ahhed about it up til now.

name change fail!!

Oh good! The FB group is v lively and so nice the have so many others who 'get it' completely. There are also lots of sub groups about loads of topics. And local meet-ups.

I have actually grown closer to his sister and she and her husband offered to be legal guardians to my children if something was to happen to me.

They also defended me when my partner's ex-wife and SD's kicked off about inheritance.

Hoping that things mellow a bit between you are your DH's family.

Mine are complete arseholes I cold write a book about them!