Special occasions

[DeathByMascara]

How do you cope with birthdays, anniversaries, etc? It would have been my dad’s 65th birthday today but he passed away just before Christmas. I’m really struggling today, I just want to wish him a happy birthday.

Sorry for your loss Op. I lost my father a few years ago but on the first birthday of his that came around after his passing, we cut a cake in his honour and shared our memories of him. If you can get your family together for something like this it may be a nice way to remember him. Or is there a special place he liked to visit? Could you perhaps visit there and just spend some time reflecting on memories of your dad x

My dad died in March. It was his birthday in August so we all had custard tarts / vanilla slices (as he loved those) and we watched last of the summer wine as that was one of his favourites.

My dad didn’t drink but we had a glass of bubbles to toast him anyway.

I was quite upset on the two days before his birthday but coped better on the actual day.

You could also write him a card - say the things you want to say and just seal it and keep it.

Hope you are feeling ok x

Sometimes the lead up to a date is harder than the actual day. For my dds birthday i always bake a cake, we have a party tea and her brothers and i sing happy birthday to her. For her anniversary my friends come over with a lot of wine and nibbles, we dont chat about her we keep it to general stuff, my boys are unaware of this date as they are only young still.