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Death of my lovely uncle

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katiecakes123 · 25/08/2018 17:10

Yesterday my dear uncle died. He was only in his 50's. He was out on a walk with my dad and unfortunately collapsed as they neared the pub for some lunch in the countryside. My lovely father could not save him and my heart breaks for him as we were all so close after my dad lost his wife 6 years ago we see my uncle and his wife and kids very regularly.
Uncles wife came to stay with us last night as to expected. Did everything I could for dad and auntie as such a tragic incident. Although I am hurting so much, they need my support. Dad wanted me to drive to chapel of rest today (80+ miles away) and be with the family to say goodbye to uncle. Of course I agreed. Drove all the way up there only for my aunt to abruptly tell me She doesn't want me there and to shoo me back to my car. Dad whispered in my ear I'm so sorry she just said that. Dad looked like he was going to cry. They left me at the door and walked in. She didn't even tell me on the motorway as I drove them up. Dad didn't even know until we were actually walking into the morgue and she viciously announced it. I feel devastated of course I respected her wishes. Cried and cried in my car whilst they said goodbye. Feel unwanted and used for a taxi service. Please tell me if I'm being unreasonable x

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raeray · 26/08/2018 19:56

Katie, I'm so sorry to hear of your uncle's sudden death.
Such a shock and so awful for you all.

Grief and shock can make people behave in very out of character ways.
Putting one foot in front of the other can feel like the hardest task.

It may have been that your aunt was overcome when you arrived at the chapel of rest and that's why she snapped at you.
Horrible to experience but please remember it was probably a reaction to the situation rather than an excuse to be mean to you (if that makes sense?)

Your uncle would be so proud of the support you are giving both your Aunt and Dad.

Take care and be kind to yourself, I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

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