A dear friend of mine was widowed 6 months ago. Soon after her husband's death she moved to another town, and is staying in a friend's b&b with her two children. She shares a room with one of her children (aged 12) but ends up sleeping in the car because her snoring keeps him up.
She lost her tax credits because she forgot to fill out a form. She forgot to sign on last week. Normally she is such an organised and efficient person but her head is all over the place. She gave up her part time job which is also a passionate hobby - because she feels no passion for it anymore. I have offered, along with other mutual friends, support but she seems to be helpless. She won't even go for counselling. I live 2 hours away (as do many of her friends). She expressed interest in coming up to stay with me during the holiday but don't think she can cope with the arrangements/journey. I will be going to see her next week.
I know how she is feeling is a normal part of bereavement. But it's so heartbreaking to watch. I don't know what else to do or how to help her. Any ideas?