Help please with my 5 y/o emotions

[vivys91]

Hi all. I was wondering if anyone had dealt with the death of someone with their young child. My 5 y/o DD has suddenly and tragically (not that she knows the details) lost one of her best friends from school. At first when we found out even though it sent massive shock waves through our family and the school she seemed to be ok. It’s been nearly 2 weeks and she has taken an awful turn sad she cries nearly every day. She wakes in the night distressed about it. She’s started bed wetting, which she never suffered from even when potty training, and she is hugely frustrated about it. The school even though been a huge support to the children I feel have over done it by talking daily about it. I am so heartbroken for not only my DD, but her friend and her family (who’s mum I do speak too) but I don’t know what to do or say to help my little one. At 15 weeks pregnant with twins I am struggling with it all.
Any help or advice will be hugely appreciated.
Thanks mums. Xx

Hi OP, I’m afraid I have never dealt with this sort of thing ( bereavement of a young child) but I didn’t want to read and say nothing. I’m so sorry about the passing of your daughter’s school friend.
All
I can say is lots of cuddles for your daughter. Has she broken up for summer holidays yet? Not being at school
Over summer and being occupied with family and activities may help to take her mind off it abit. It must be so hard for her and you. Please look after yourself as well.

You could contact winstons wish charity as they support children who have been affected by bereavement. I sadly lost a 5 year old boy in my class (very suddenly) and we made a space in the class for children to pin up drawings, cards, letters etc. I told the children he had died and wouldn't ever be coming back and that was pretty much it. If the children spoke about him or asked questions then I answered honestly but didn't talk about him every day. We told the parents separately. The children all seemed to adjust well but I know winstons wish was contacted for some of the older children.