My Granny won't let me visit- I feel as though I've already lost her

[hairylegsdontcare]

I'm sorry about this but I really need to talk to someone.

My Granny is very poorly. She used to call me all the time and now never calls- I always ring her. She keeps asking us not to visit which is SO UNLIKE HER, and I'm worried. We finally talked her round and me and my mum were due to visit tomorrow. Mum called my grandad to make arrangements earlier, but granny has been in bed after taking a turn for the worse. She won't let us visit tomorrow.

I am heartbroken. We live 300 miles apart and so I don't get to see her as much as I would like to. Many years ago she helped me through a really hard time, and I owe her and my grandad so much in my life today.

Today's news has hit me so hard and I can't stop crying. I know this is the beginning of the end for her and I am so desperate to see her and be with her, I can't describe. The thought of not seeing her again is more than I can cope with. I have thanked them so many times for their help those years ago but this is a debt of gratitude I can never repay. I love her more than anything and I just want to see her again.

Why am I feeling like this? I feel like I've already lost her. What should I do?

Honestly, lovely, I would go anyway. They both might feel differently once you are on the doorstep and there in person.

But more importantly you will know that you did all that you could regardless of how it works out.

It's a horrible situation and I wish you all the best x

I would still go.
At least then you will know that you tried.
DO you think they would turn you away?

Thank you xx I've been thinking I'll go anyway. We have family nearby so I can stay with them and not intrude for long. Even if she only sees us for 10 mins that would be ok, and if I can make my Granddad just one cup of tea, that will be enough xx

My D f did this last year.Very out of character and it broke my heart and my siblings too.I did see him the week before he passed away.THE some people don't want their relatives to witness them incontinent or unable to walk etc.Much as I yearned to go I respected my DFs wishes to only see DM.It was his final wish.My heart goes out to you and your Dm. X