This is outing but hohum
My Dad died suddenly & unexpectedly at the start of the year. I'm his only child & he divorced my Mum when I was very young.
He raised me. He was very close to his Dad who passed away almost 20 years. With regards to his Mother he saw that he had a duty of care to her but nothing more, my Grandad raised him pretty much.
My Gran is self centred in the extreme, he was ill last year (related to but not the cause of his death) & he said then (when we discussed what he wanted etc if he didn't make it) that I'd have merry hell with her if she outlived him. He underestimated, a lot.
She hasn't once asked how I'm coping, or my dc (who saw him at least 5x every week) or her sister who he was very close to. I've been bombarded with almost daily emails about her struggles, her grief...& then last week I had an email demanding to know about his ashes & whether I'd dealt with them yet. I replied that I have them & when I'm ready they'll be scattered where he'd said he wanted them to go. I've had silence since, which has been rather nice. My (gr) Aunt called yesterday, she (my Gran) is refusing to set foot in my house 'until they're disposed of'.
Why does it all have to be about her? I was just getting through the worst of my pnd post dc5 when he died, I'm trying to grieve for him & it's like she has to make all of it more difficult for the rest of us. I'm gettimg so close to snapping but I know it won't help, not really.
I know she's lost a son but she hardly new him. She moaned after the funeral that aside from family she only knew 4 or 5 poeple out of the 80 odd there. She wanted to know why I'd had so many photos to choose from for the order of service (because I take photos & he was always round for a cuppa & to see the children).
I'm sorry, I don't really know the point of this post. I just don't know how to do this any more 