What do I do?

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What do I do? My bf text me that his best friends ex wife was killed and asked if we could take care of her children for a couple of weeks. They are 4 and 11 years old and I have an 8 month old. Their dad is deployed and I'm not sure of when he will be home, I don't know all the details. I do know the 4 year old isn't his child, she cheated and they divorced, but its probably best to keep them together. I cant imagine how they feel.How do I care for these children who just lost their mother, I can't imagine how devastated they are, how scared they are. I don't know what to do, how do I comfort them from this pain, when their mother only can, how do I explain this. Why do they have to go through this pain. What do I do, please pray for these children. I want to take them in, I know it will be hard but how do I care for them like this, I don't want to say or do the wrong thing. Would you take them in, what do I do?

Very gently, no. I realise it's a terrible situation but I don't think you can legally do this anyway - and you wouldn't be allowed to. There must be all kinds of rules and regs about caring for children in situations like this. It's one for SS.

Forces should bring dad home to take care of his kid(s). He can't be more than 24 hours away. It is his responsibility to his child(ren).
Other relatives or a named guardian in her will first.
If no relatives speak to whoever is caring for them right now and ss.

@TwitterQueen1 oh I didn't know this, my bf got a call from his best friend and he asked if we could, I don't know where the kids are now or who they are with, ss or family, I just got a quick couple of text because he's working asking if we could help. I don't want to say no.

@cestlavielife he lives in the same state he does but they don't, I would hope he can get back but he'll still be working, and schools almost out for the 11 year old and the little doesnt go, if I do "babysit" while they settle, I just don't know the proper way of caring for them like this

If your kids other parent just died you would ask for leave .
Sorry but as their dad he has to get compassionate leave or whatever
And sort out the long term.
He cannot dump traumatised kids on someone ....he is the sole parent now to at least one of them. He needs to step.up.

If he won't take the other kid then again the dad or relative needs to step up. Or whoever is named as guardian.

If your kids dad died would.you go to work or be there for them.til.things are sorted out ?

I don't buy that he is working..
He needs to take time off and be the parent now. You can help.out eg 24 hpurs til dad artives....but don't take them.in for longer...tell.the dad he has to step.up get back from wherever be there for his child (ren) and sort out long term arrangements.
Dad has to arrange the counselling and support. He is the parent.

I.had to.take.time off work.when.my ex was admitted to psych unit. I had to take time off work.until.i sorted out childcare. That is what a parent does. Not dump.kids on a friend and go.to work. He may be traumatised but he has to take responsibility....

It will be for a will for a couple hours so he can get settled, he needs to find a home because where he has now he has a roommate and he needs to find childcare, but my boyfriend called me and told me that his best friend's ex-wife was shot by her husband because she was having an affair the kids were in the house and they weren't hurt but I have no clue what I'm getting myself into these girls have to be f traumatized but I can't say no this man that my boyfriend went to war with is completely messed up the four-year-old daughter isn't his but when he was deployed they put his name on her birth certificate and she never told him who her father was so he has to take both girls, I will be caring for her the girls for a couple of weeks, also his mother just died on Friday so they have no family but I don't f know what I'm getting myself into I don't know how I'm going to take care of these babies I'm completely at a loss, I am so heartbroken for them it had to endure so much, please keep them in your thoughts and prayers.
Here's the news report amp.koco.com/article/suspect-shot-killed-after-leading-officers-on-chase-in-grady-county/21061817

What a mess. Just be normal with them but get some professionals involved. Social services.