Please or to access all these features

Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

It's been 5 years today

2 replies

HHH3 · 01/06/2018 22:35

5 years today since DS2's dad committed suicide. In some ways it feels like yesterday. In other ways it feels like forever.

DS is now 5 (he was 5 months old when it happened) and goes through periods where he talks about daddy a lot and times when he doesn't mention him. I explained what dying means to him a little while ago and for the first time he understood that daddy isn't coming back. He sobbed and sobbed. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

I still feel a mixture of sad and angry. And I still often struggle with being the only parent and solely responsible. I wouldn't swap DS for the world but he's hard work (he has SNs) and sometimes I'm desperate for a break. And I'm so scared of getting it wrong and screwing him up.

No real point to this. I just needed to get it all out.

OP posts:
AgentHannahWells · 01/06/2018 22:39

That is so incredibly hard for you to deal with and to raise your lovely DS2. You sound amazing and I am sure you are not screwing him up!!! Your dp/dh/ex 's death was not your fault. Keep going Flowers

HHH3 · 01/06/2018 22:51

Thank-you @AgentHannahWells that's so lovely of you to say

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread