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it gets better, right?

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Pampl3m0usse · 13/05/2018 18:52

my mum died by suicide in December after a shortish psychiatric illness and in horrific circumstances. in march in found I was unexpectedly pregnant with a baby due on her 1st anniversary. a fortnight ago I had heavy bleeding and was convinced i was miscarrying but nonetheless travelled 200 miles to my Grans funeral at which we also buried mum's ashes. I had a scan and told the pregnancy was fine but continued bleeding only to discover the baby has died on my birthday. all attempts to speed up the miscarriage over the past few days have failed (I. e. medicine) and it's mum's inquest (200 miles away) on Wednesday. I'm besides myself as I want to get there for closure but it looks increasingly unlikely and I've got this baby to grieve for too.

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MrsMozart · 13/05/2018 18:54

Oh I am so sorry. I have no useful and wise words, all I can do is send you a handhold while you work through this.

Hassled · 13/05/2018 18:55

I'm so sorry - how awful. Yes, it will eventually get better (or at least your ability to manage the grief will get better) but you're going to need some help - please have a look at the Cruse website when you're ready.

Pampl3m0usse · 14/05/2018 13:25

Thank you both for replying. I'd been seeing a grief counsellor but stopped (ironically) because life got so complicated. Miscarriage is apparently complete so feel a bit more like I can move on and enjoy the children I do have until another arrives. Have spent most of my morning planning my littlest one's bedroom scheme for when we move house, which has made me feel a little better. xx

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MrsMozart · 14/05/2018 14:04

Nice to have something to look forward to lass.

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