Signs there is something after death?

[Mamabear12]

I lost my father recently. I was with him the last couple weeks of his life and spent every day in the hospital. The last couple days before he passed away (I knew he was going to pass) I asked him if he could show me a sign that there was something after death, to let me know he was okay and to show me a shooting star. I said this a few times, as I was not really sure he could hear me (he was very sick and seemed to be sleeping or eyes closed all the time, except for every few days he would open his eyes for merely seconds). He would have some movements sometimes and when I thought he might hear me, I would talk to him and mentioned this as well. He would squeeze my hands sometimes, but I was not sure if it was a reflex because I was holding his hand. I knew that he could hear me at one point when I asked him "if you can hear me, open your eyes!" He struggled and I could see he was trying to open his eyes and then suddenly they opened and he looked at me for a few seconds. Another time when he had his eyes open I asked if he could follow my face with his eyes as I moved from side to side and he was able to do this (at the time we were trying to assess if he was able to follow command). His heart stopped a full ten minutes and they resuscitated him, so we were not sure if he could still understand us or if he was even there. But after he opened his eyes on command and followed my movement on command (only briefly) but I got that he could at least hear me at some points...just not sure when! Anyways, so I made sure to ask him a few times for the shooting star when he leaves us to let me know that he is okay and that there is something.

He died around 4:40pm, with me and my mum holding his hand. My sister was also there. We comforted him as much as we could. It was the hardest thing I ever went through. That night as soon as it was dark, my mom and I went out to wait for our shooting star and to our amazement we saw two! There was only a small part of the sky that we could see stars, because of the tall trees blocking some of the sky. We spent a few minutes outside looking and saw a few planes go by. Then we were saying "How are we going to know if we see a shooting star with all the planes flying buy!" Literally as we said that it happened. We saw our shooting star! It happened so quick we could have missed it with a blink of the eye. A couple minutes later we saw another one in the same place and this time it was brighter. It was amazing and I would not believe it if I did not see it with my mother because, she is a second pair of eyes to confirm it. In all my life, I have never seen a shooting star in my home town and I spent MANY nights looking at the stars. I believe it was my father giving us our shooting star. We went out to look in the sky several other nights and never saw another shooting star.

I have had a tough start to the year with a close friend passing from cancer at the age of one 34 and then a couple months later another close friend of my husband passing from cancer age 45 and then recently my father. It made me think of death and I worry what happens after death. I question if there is something after death. I would like to believe there is. But obviously, how can we know? I worry if all the lessons about life after death (during religion classes) were just made up long ago to comfort people so they would not be so scared of death.

Do you think the shooting star was a sign there is something else after? I mean, seriously, that can not just be a coincidence that the night my dad passed away we saw two shooting stars, the very thing I asked my father to show me after he enters the other side....something I have never seen where I am from. I once saw a shooting star in London and once in Mexico.

Have any of you asked for a sign? My other question is, why is it when people ask for signs it does not always happen? For example, we asked my dad if he could show us more shooting stars later in the days after and we did not see any more. I thought maybe he must be busy up there and can not hear me. Or perhaps they are only allowed to give you one sign after death and not continuously. Or perhaps they can no longer hear us after death and I got the shooting star sign because I asked him when he was still living?

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

I do believe in things like this and have a few but they'd be outing. At the very least we can take comfort from them.

I'm sorry for your loss and so glad you got your sign and I hope it brings you some comfort 🌹

I believe a loved one has given me 'signs' after she died. The sceptical part of me knows it could be a coincidence but it brought me such comfort at the time that I allow myself to believe it.
I'm sorry for your loss, And glad your star was able to make you feel close to your dad.

So sorry for your loss.

These are coincidences, though comforting ones. The reason why there aren't signs though people ask for them is that there's nothing after we die except the memory of that person. When the last person who remembers us dies, then we are gone.

I would love to dream again about my DH as I did after died, but dreams can't be summoned up. Objectively I know he no longer exists, but I still wonder where he "is". This is not proof of an afterlife but the symptom of the enduring, jawdropping horror of loss. The afterlife is what we tell ourselves to fill the void the obvious: they are gone, and there's nothing we can do about it.

Oh OP, I'm sorry for your loss too

I lost my mum in my early twenties too after a long, painful illness.

In my opinion it doesn't matter if these things are coincidences or not; they really are evidence of your father being "somewhere" after death. Although perhaps that somewhere is a place inside you rather than anywhere else.

Every little thing that brings that person close to you once they're gone in body just shows you that they are still with you in spirit, because they live on inside you, and you see them in those things. You feel them still, and they are with you.

I hope you take as much comfort in that as I always have.

Op I'm so sorry for the loss of your wonderful dad, the day my mum died I had to drive home from the hospital, I was in such a state, it was raining and I remember crying and shouting 'Mum, where are you Mum' a few seconds later a small white feather floated down onto my dashboard. It stopped my crying enough to drive home safely.

I know it's not a popular opinion here on mn but I do believe in life after death and so whatever you feel is a 'sign' if it brings you comfort that's all that matters.

I lost my dad at the end of March . In the week or so after he died me, my sister and his wife all saw personal signs that for us meant something. Real ‘wow that’s weird’ moments.

Whatever they mean and whether they actually are a sign, they are comforting and help. My feeling is that all that energy and live from a person can’t just disappear so maybe it is around somewhere for a while.

Like you I haven’t really seen any signs since. I like the think that’s because where ever my dad is now, he’s at peace.

Lots of love to you all.

After my good friend died, I had some weird experiences. I was moving around quite a bit for work and had flickering lights in every place I stayed in. A few times when I was alone in a room, I smelt a very distinctive perfume. I don't use fragrances because I'm sensitive to them...

Yes, I read about lights and perfume as a sign someone is trying to communicate with you. I only had the shooting stars on the night of my dads death. I wish he would send me another signal. But it has been nothing since. I am thankful for the shooting stars he showed me at least.

Never been one for believing woo stories tbh but I had a moment on the tenth anniversary of my mother's death where out of the blue the room was filled with her presence for about ten seconds. When it disappeared the atmosphere/energy felt sucked out of the room. Like it'd left a massive vacuum. I also sensed that it had required massive amounts of energy.
Sounds absolutely mad but it was indescribably real at the time.
BTW if I'm brutally honest I'm not one for dwelling on birthdays/anniversaries of the deceased and as close as I was to my mother I got over her death rather well
(laws of nature and all that).
Was like the most surprising, unexpected occurrence I've ever experienced, particularly because I wasn't even thinking about my mother. I had a set of headphones on blasting some music and sipping a can of beer.
I have been quietly converted. I now listen, rather than let my mind wander when someone brings up the subject of afterlife

Forgot to say. I heard her speak a few words to me. A little reassuring message.
Not in my ears but like she'd tapped straight into the receptors in my brain.
But it was clear as if she'd shouted it.
Trippy I know, but I swear this was no hallucinogenic drug induced event..
A one time only event. Nothing spiritual before or since.

After my mother suddenly died I found coins. Nearly 10 years later, I still find coins in strange places.

My dh found a white feather in the bike path at the top of a mountain. We find feathers and coins still but usually when I'm really upset.

Some people have phones ring but nobody there.

My gran loved butterflies and after a trying day of hospital tests, before my mother died, a butterfly landed on me and clung when I got out of the car at home.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Yes, I'm positive your father will contact you. Just be open. I didn't expect coins, but i began to realize that they were showing up.

Peace be with you soon.

Sorry for your loss OP and all other posters.
I have lost several loved family members and friends, in fact some are on their last days, months, years.
I have begged for signs in my head talking to them. I think the fact that you are still thinking about them with so much love means they are not gone. Your love keeps them alive. But you need to be happy for their peace too.
You can't live in their memory or in a shadow of grief. When you think of them just smile and be glad you had them.
That's how I would want my loved ones to think of me after my passing.
I wouldn't want them to feel bad.

My grandmother died back in the early 1980's and there was a storm the day of her funeral and lightning struck our house, it was fine tho, tiny damage but my mum said it was a sign. After thT she always said she'd make a storm when she died as a sign, she said it regularly and it became a bit of a thing yes yes mum you'll make a storm when you die .... now can we stop talking about dying please ... that sort of thing literally every few months.
She died on 28 June 2012, literally 20 mins after she died (took a long time for her to die, weeks) I was home in England (she'd emigrated yo Australia so sadly couldn't see her as I had a newborn), it started raining, then huge thunder and lightening storm. In fact it was a one in 10,000 super cell storm (you can google the date it gives details of this storm)
I am convinced it was her - so I do believe signs like this and your shooting star 🌠 ❤️

for you OP, I’m very sorry about your Dad.

I lost my Mum nearly a year ago, and a few months ago I hit rock bottom and was in bed crying. My left hand was under my pillow, under my head and clear as day I felt Mum’s cold, rough (she had Raynauds syndrome and eczema) hand slip into mine the way she used to when I was upset and squeeze it tight. I’m not one for woo, but I swear it was her. I felt an overwhelming sense of calm, and I knew she was beside me.

It’s coming up to the anniversary, and now and then I feel her beside me, especially on the days when I’m really struggling.

After a close family friend died I asked for a sign they were OK. On a cloudy night there was suddenly a bright star in the sky. More recently after my dad passed away, walking along there was a butterfly keeping pace with me along a busy road. It was the first butterfly I had seen this year so focused on it. While walking I thought it was strange a d thought to myself how much my dad loved butterflies and it made me smile. A minute or so after I thought of him it flew away and I honestly believe it was either his, or nature's way of saying he was OK.

I’m not sure what l think. When my mum died l had signs of stuff. But it’s 12 years ago now, and l think you just cease to exist after you die.