Lost my grandfather and feeling ill

[kaytee87]

I lost my grandfather on Sunday evening. I was with him by myself when he died as no one made it back in time.
Yesterday I felt exhausted and really foggy and disconnected. Today I feel the same but also have nausea and indigestion. I can't bring myself to eat anything but am sipping water.
My mil has kindly come round to look after ds so I can lie down. What can I do to make myself feel better?
I need to help with funeral arrangements and can't even think clearly.
How long does this last?

Massive hugs to you. I wish there was a way to help you. You are in shock and your body is reacting to it. Rest as much as you can and, if it is possible right now, take comfort in knowing that you were there and he was with someone who truly loved him.

Hi Kaytee - how are you feeling today?

Sorry @IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere didn't feel great yesterday. Bit better today, still tired but a teething toddler doesn't help. Struggling with ds tantrums today so instead of being cool like I usually am, we left toddlers early so now I feel guilty for ds and embarrassed to go back 🙈

I think you are doing brilliantly even to go out to somewhere like that. DS will have no recollection of the event and I bet every other mum who was there will one day have to leave early because of a teething or grumpy toddler.

Hope you have support and people around you. I was probably a bit older than you are when I lost my beloved grandfather and I was very grateful for the friends that kept me company and helped me entertain my DS and baby when my mind was all over the place.

I hope you are feeling a little better today. The only thing you can do is give yourself time. After my father died in March I felt very unwell. Felt sick most days, upset tummy, didn’t want to eat and some days felt so tired it felt like I was walking through treacle.

I’m feeling better now but my periods are still all over the place. I’m sure that might be linked to my emotions.

It will improve but see your doctor for advice if it doesn’t.