My dad has passed away and I’m so alone

[traceycleankern0w]

My dad died 25 days ago and I made all of the funeral arrangements, read a eulogy at the funeral, I’ve only missed 1 day off work, pretty much picked up the pieces for everyone else and I’m not getting any support. If I talk to close family members it gets turned round on me. I literally feel broken with no where to turn to. Can anyone please recommend any support groups I could join or a grief counsellor just so I can get it out as I’m not eating, not sleeping properly and I have 4 children to look after.

I’m so sorry my Dad died a few months ago and although my mum and siblings were around I felt like I had to hold it together and sort everyone else out. Do you have any friends you can confide in who can support you?

I’m sorry to read this. I felt the same after my mum died; I made all the arrangements, read the eulogy and then sorted her estate. Not a word from my siblings, other than my sister sending her bank code...
There are online bereavement support groups, for example

www.bereavementuk.co.uk

but I’ve no experience of them.

I'm so sorry to hear this. Cruse are good. Samaritans are always there too and might help to offload into them. I often have and they've been great. Your dad would be proud of you.

I'm so sorry OP
I lost my dad this week too, and he was all I had. I hope you find someone who can help you through x

tracey be kind to yourself, you've done an amazing job. Please speak to your GP they should be able to help you with a counselling referral. www.cruse.org.uk/ is an excellent source of support. I lost my dad a few weeks ago and understand you feeling so alone, reach out to others who understand the path you are walking.

I accessed bereavement counselling yesterday through my gp and local hospice. It was helpful especially because I found that most people didn’t realise how devastating the loss of a parent can be. I also felt I couldn’t process it because I was looking after Young dc.

Sorry to hear about your loss. Losing a parent is devastating. Your feelings are normal. Don't expect too much from yourself for a while, try not to focus too much on the past or future and if you can, try to stay in the moment as much as you can to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Keep posting here if it helps....do you want to tell us more about your dad?

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Thank you all for your kind words, I wish I had time to take time for myself. I’ve got 4 children and a husband who is extremely unreliable. I feel like I’m having to do everything for everyone else instead of it being me the one who gets looked after, shopping, cleaning, cooking, kids school stuff-you name it it’s all on me. I wouldn’t normally seek help on a forum but I am utterly desperate. I will go to the doctors on Tuesday to get a referral and maybe some help with sleeping as I imagine that will help me a lot more.