Grief

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Lost my sister last year, we were very close and would speak daily. I’m nearly 10 months on and I feel like I’m on the verge of a breakdown. Everything in my life is crashing around me, and I’m having difficulty coping. Does anyone else feel this way? I’m really really struggling.

Sorry to hear about your sister.

Grief can certainly be overwhelming. This has been posted on this board before, it might help with understanding you’re not alone in feeling like this...

www.littlethings.com/grieving-advice-old-man/

It’s ok to feel like you’re not coping sometimes but if it really is making normal day to day functioning a problem then a visit to your GP or contact with a bereavement charity could be a good move.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Life is hard enough without losing people you love.

Thank you 1234..that’s the right word ‘overwhelming’. Some days are better than others, but on the whole it’s very hard. Hopefully when the better weather (UK) is here, that’ll help somewhat, sunshine is good for our mental wellbeing

Have you had any Counselling OP? Do you think it could help? I didn’t feel like I needed any after losing my DF but it soon became apparent that I was totally overwhelmed too. The Counselling is really helping

That link is beautiful. I have lost 2 siblings. The first when I was 18 and I can say it does get easier after all these years I think about him a lot. The first 2 years were hell and for a few years after that I felt an overwhelming sense of guilt which still drifts in sometimes but I now understand there was nothing I could have done. Now I have lost my other sibling 3 years ago and I feel the void everyday. Grief washes over you like waves and sometimes a really big one comes and knocks us off our feet. But whilst we are on the floor we are looking up and we can get back up even though it feels like we can’t. I put on my mums order of service how lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard from the renowned philosopher Winnie the Pooh. Theres no way to say its not hard, its hell. Keep going. She would have wanted that and in some way she will always be there with you. That’s what I believe. I am so sorry for what you are going through