Any tips for getting through Mother's Day?

[tethersend]

Just that, really.

It's my first one without my mum and I though I was fine until I walked past Clinton's. And she hated bloody Clinton's!

I'm not fine. I miss her more than words can express. Am dreading the adverts, shops and even cards from my DC.

Has anyone got any helpful hints for getting through the run up/day?

Sorry you’ve lost your Mum. This will be my 3rd one without my own Mum, the first one I dreaded and sure enough, I was a mess.
I allowed myself a wallow in bed and had a good cry, then went for a run.
My own children were 5 and 8 at the time and were excited to give me cards and gifts so I had to put a bit of a brave face on.
You never stop missing your Mum, but the first Mother’s Day is especially tough.
I still can’t bear seeing the cards and adverts in all the shops, I try to blank it out and avoid card shops from now until it’s over.
It is just a day, you will get through somehow. Be kind to yourself, it’s ok to dread it. Xx

It’s my tenth mother’s day this year without my Mum. Luckily (this sounds wrong) my best friend is in a similar position, so each year we arrange a special day out together. We go into London and go shopping and have a really lovely lunch or dinner somewhere as anti-Mother’s day as possible and spend time talking about our Mums. We always buy each other gorgeous flowers and spend a fortune on decadent treats! And we ALWAYS get drunk, we dedicate at least one bottle of champagne to our Mums. It’s hard- but you need to find your way of dealing with it, make it the ‘new normal’ for you. Hugs

tether same for me this year is my 1st since my mum passed away - I've been taking a deep breath & walking past the displays so far but there's no way to avoid it - it's my mum's birthday very close to Mothering Sunday too

Thank you all. It does really help to know that others feel the same (I understand the 'lucky' bit, Dontknow) and that it gets even a tiny bit easier.

Winealot, my children are almost exactly the same age as yours were and I will be doing a similar brave face thing. I suppose it helps in a way?

Time, my mum's birthday is close to Mother's Day too- she also died on her birthday last year, so this time of year is tough. I feel for you, too; I hope you manage ok

I will plan a day of wallowing, crying and drinking. Then maybe some lunch

I feel the same. Last year I held my Mum's hand all through the night and into Mother's Day. I think she held out for it on purpose.

I can't bear all the stuff in the shops and the marketing e mails.

I'll have to put a brave face on it for my family but maybe we could all come on here to wallow a bit?

Thanks tether right back at ya! You've got a triple whammy to contend with

I've been in a card shop today as I've got a couple of other birthdays next week - just a whole wall of cards & gifts - it seems so unreal that I don't need to shop for anything this year 😕 - my mil is still with us so I will have to summon some enthusiasm to think of something to get her