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my stepmum has died :(

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AnAngelWithin · 01/05/2007 16:30

I don't know why I am upset. She wasn't my stepmum as such. She was my dads wife. I didn't really know her that well. When my dad died, I kept in touch with her, sharing memories of my dad. We would write to each other and talk on the phone occasionally, christmas cards that kind of thing. She said she had some belongings and photos of my fathers that she wanted me to have at some point, which I would have adored, but she never got round to sending them. I daresay I will never see them now. I don't even know how she has died yet. I have only found out from an article in the family announcements bit of the newspaper in the deaths section. Nobody in her family has told me. They probably don't even know about me. It is her funeral tomorrow. I am sat here sobbing and I don't know why. sorry. will shut up now. Just needed to get it off my chest.

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FioFio · 01/05/2007 16:31

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DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 01/05/2007 16:32

Oh no, so sorry to hear this. What a horrible way to find out. Are you going to get in touch with her family?

NurseyJo · 01/05/2007 16:33

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AnAngelWithin · 01/05/2007 16:37

the funeral is too far for me to get to at such short notice otherwise i would go. they will probably just throw my dads stuff away

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throckenholt · 01/05/2007 16:38

I would contact the family and say you are sorry to hear that she has died - that you had kept in touch with her over the years.

Also ask them if they can forward anything relating to your dad to you if they come across it whilst clearing her things.

throckenholt · 01/05/2007 16:38

and say you are sorry you can't make it to the funeral because you haven't time to arrange time off.

AnAngelWithin · 01/05/2007 16:40

the only way i have of getting in touch is probably by ringing her home and hoping that someone happens to be there at the time, and that is providing that they havent already disconnected the line.

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NurseyJo · 01/05/2007 16:53

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Saturn74 · 01/05/2007 16:54

So sorry.

AnAngelWithin · 01/05/2007 16:59

i just keep thinking that if the family wanted me to know or wanted me there then they would have rung me. My number is in her address book

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AnAngelWithin · 01/05/2007 17:50

well i have rung stepmums number. There was no reply, but there was an answerphone. I cried listening to her message asking to leave name and number etc, knowing that she is no longer here. I have left my number and everything. Just hope someone checks it and rings me back.

i need to go and sort tea out now. I've not even thought about it. Kids must think I am awful

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AnAngelWithin · 03/05/2007 14:37

still not heard anything.

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ChipButty · 08/05/2007 22:08

Any news yet? I just lost my Dad and I can hardly bear it. Hope you hear something soon. CB xx

AnAngelWithin · 09/05/2007 11:50

no not heard anything yet. i don't think i will now tbh.

CB so sorry for your loss

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ChipButty · 09/05/2007 22:53

Thanks. Will keep my fingers crossed that they get in touch. CB x

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