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[yorkshire111]

please help.

I lived in the uk in my 20s and upon my return to Australia, my life has been nonstop misery for 20 years. I have grieved so many losses, a stroke, the inability to work, a change to my brain because of the difference in culture and language between the two countries, and dealt with far more than a young person should ever have to cope with, everything has just been so painful and difficult in all that time.
it is never ending.
I am desperate to return to the uk on a permanent basis. I have grieved the loss of my life and my friends there, and been so homesick I felt suicidal, I can't cope with life here but I know I can cope much better with life there, my friends are there and being there makes me so much happier. I would have absolutely no regrets about leaving Australia permanently.

I need to find a way to be in the uk, because an ancestry visa isn't an option and am too old now for a working holiday visa. I only get so far in the process before it all seems to difficult and confusing and I give up in despair because it seems truly hopeless, but I have not stopped suffering from the day I arrived back in Australia and the only time I ever feel myself is when I am visiting the UK. my life here is a complete mess, and I feel so trapped all the time with no way out and no way to do what would allow me to live as myself.

can anyone please help, I need legal advice and truly need to be in the uk, for the sake of my mental health.

I also recently lost a very close friend from the uk, and feel utterly lost and bereft because I cannot find out any further information regarding their possible death.

I'm the opposite! I'm desperate to get home to Australia, as I miss my family so much and never intended to spend 11 years here in the (UK) life however, has gotten in the way (ie we can't afford a bloody oz spouse visa for British DH). However, what I don't expect is to be able to slot into my old life. Things and people move on, have families, move away, etc.

Oops posted too soon! What are your qualifications? Because it seems the only path open to you at the moment, visa wise would be a work one. There are calls for visa free movement between the UK and Oz after brexit (CANZUK - which would be amazing for us) - but whether that happens or not is another thing.

that is also my problem in that life for everyone else has moved on while I have literally struggled every single day since I came back, with one thing or another and it's ruined my life and I don't know what to do anymore.

sorry I also sent you a private message. new here. hope you'll be able to return to Aus one day.

Hi OP - it sounds as though you're expecting living in the UK to be a cure for all of your unhappiness, and I'm guessing that the apparent futility of this is making your here and now more difficult. As Degust says, things will be different in the UK from when you left, everything changes. What with Brexit on the horizon, I personally am finding the UK a depressing place to be.

I do understand that, but I have been back to the UK eight times since I returned and I know it is not the same place I left behind in my 20's, but it is where all of my friends are and where I feel most comfortable.

everyone sees things differently I suppose.

Agreed, the (UK) does seem pretty depressing at the moment - but then I think that's largely due to the effects of neoliberal capitalism!