Not sure how to deal with this

[Abyss23]

This is an AIBU really but I'm too feeble to face up to that nest of vipers (I say that with a certain degree of fondness for them) at the moment.

My lovely Mum passed away a week ago. I've had lots of support, flowers, cards, messages of condolence etc. People I barely know have sent flowers, I've had messages from old school friends I've not seen for donkeys years. I've been blown away by people's kindness in the last few days and I'm really grateful for the support everyone has given me, except...

I have two cousins (first cousins, on my Mum's side of the family). We were all very close as kids. Less so in recent years as they both moved away but we stayed in contact, exchanged birthday/xmas cards, occasional meet-ups etc. Not a peep from either of them. They've not contacted me, or my siblings, or my Dad. Not a phone call or text message when she was desperately ill in hospital. Not even an acknowledgement that she has now passed. They have been informed.

I'm disappointed and hurt by this. I would never have left them to grieve alone if the tables were turned. AIBU? How do I handle this? Ignore it? Tell them how I feel?

Ignore it. You need to focus on your grief, what happens now, and all the lovely people who have responded. Do not waste your time and energy on them. Many people don't know how to respond so they may just not know quite what to do.

I am so sorry for your loss .

Thanks, you're right, I'll ignore it. I certainly don't have the energy for a row about it so it's not worth bringing it up. I guess it just shows how little we mean to them.

I'm so sorry for your loss .

While you are not being at all unreasonable,
I would just ignore it. It's a shame they gave shown themselves up like this, but people get very defensive when they know they are in the wrong, and do you need conflict now?
I think you often find what people are made of at these difficult times.

Thank you. Definitely don't need conflict just now, I'll leave them to it.