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After Dads Death

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tulip85 · 29/12/2017 01:38

Just posting to see if anyone has had a similar experience.

My father passed away unexpectedly on the 3rd of October unexpectedly, although we believe he passed away a few days earlier but due to living alone and having only a cleaner visiting every two days he wasn't found, coroner reports STILL haven't come back but we think he possibly died in his sleep.

There was no one except me & DS to organise funeral, his finances etc, although DS couldn't handle it.

My Dad unfortunately wasn't a well man, alcohol abuse over the years coupled with diabetes & severe asthma as well as arthritis, the doctor had warned him so in the last year of his life he became tea total.

I hadn't spoken to him for a year before his death due to a small argument that just built up to us not speaking, I was intending on seeing him a few weeks before I found out so he could meet my now fiancé.

Despite his flaws, and most probably mine as a daughter, I loved my Dad very much and he was genuinely my hero, a definite 'Daddy's girl'.

What I'm wondering is, after his death I really felt his presence, felt like I was being watched etc. I did go to a medium, I know some people don't agree with them, but I think it was for comfort.

After his funeral and internment I felt this overwhelming sense of he's gone up to heaven now and I don't feel a presence anymore.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

TIA

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AcrossthePond55 · 29/12/2017 02:24

Yes. Twice. The first time when my grandmother died. She died in a nursing home and I lived next door to the home she'd lived in with granddad for over 6o years. When she died I felt a definite presence and I saw her in my mind's eye so clearly. It didn't last very long and then the feeling seemed to (this may sound crazy) swoop away in the direction of her old home next door. If it was 'real' (and I choose to believe it was) then I guess she/her spirit was drawn to the home she'd known and loved and she'd come to say 'goodbye'.

The second time was when my dad died. I was with him and the moment he died I felt not only his spiritual presence, but the presence of my cousin (his favourite niece) who had died young. It was as if she'd come to guide him.

People can believe or not. And whether these are real visitations or simply God or the Universe giving us what we need to feel at peace with the loss of our loved one really doesn't matter. What matters is that it gives you comfort and eases your grief. So believe what you want to believe.

I don't hold with psychics or mediums though. IMO, they're in it for money.

tulip85 · 29/12/2017 11:50

Forgot to mention after he passed, a week or so after, I had a dream that I was in his flat on his living room floor sorting his papers and I looked up and he was stood next to me, he didn't say anything but I felt his sadness, like real sadness.

He then went outside and I looked out of the curtains to see him walk towards a hearse, sounds weird I know but I felt him think whether he should drive it or get in the coffin, I then shouted him and ran outside towards him he turned round ran towards me and we hugged, I then woke up crying.

I've been told it was a visitation and he was saying goodbye.

I like to believe it was Sad

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