My Very Good Friend Lost her Baby Today

[Lazylou]

My very good friends lost their little girl today after a long battle since her birth in March with her health. I have spoken briefly to them today but I just don't know what to say. I'm devestated for them both as they waited so long for her.

Don't really know why I felt the need to post this, I don't want to go into details in case my friends are here. I'm just terribly for them both.

I don't know what to do. I want to ring them and offer my support but I realise that now might not be the best time. We live quite far away from each other and I want them to know I am here for them but I also understand that they need some time for themselves to take in their news. I don't want them to think I don't care about what they are going through, and I think they might feel like that if I don't contact them. It's really hard to know what to do for the best.

that is very - close friends of mine lost their baby and i rang and sent a long letter (they live overseas). Doing what feels right is the best thing especially after the funeral when things go back to "Normal" and people can stop calling etc

On the same token LL- please, please don?t be offended if they decide that they don?t want people at the funeral after all. I know I didn?t when I lost my first born (sb at 33wks).
It was a last minute thing?..I just really could not cope with the ?idea? of dealing with ?other peoples? mourning---had enough of my own (IYSWIM).
Many were shocked and upset by my decision, but it was the best thing for me at the time ? wouldn?t have changed it in hindsight either.
Probably won?t happen, but just felt I should warn you just in case?it will absolutely be nothing to do with anything you have or haven?t said/done if this does happen?..guaranteed/honest.

I would echo evderyone else. Just be there for them.