Feeling completely lost

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My husband died a few weeks ago , everyone thinks I'm coping because I try not to show emotion in front of them , as they get embarrassed and I end up comforting them, I'm still working but sit at home most nights and cry , I don't even know why I'm crying, I can't change things I'm just so numb , I'm not even sure why I'm posting this , maybe I just need someone to know

Oh you poor thing. Have you contacted Cruse - the phone number is 0808 808 1677. That might be a start.

They might also be able to help you find a local 'Widow's Group'. A friend of mine went to one of those for some years and found it really, really helpful and she made a few really good friends.

I think it helps to know what the 'stages' of grief are so that you understand that what you are feeling is normal, and also that things will get better eventually.

So sorry. But please call Cruse and get some help/talk to them. xx

Such a difficult situation to be in op and you are right other people do get embarrassed and don't know what to say.

It's normal to feel a whole range of emotions at different times. It's ok to cry and feel numb.

Thanks both for listening

I can't offer any advice but sending a big hug.
Do you think people need/want you to tell them what you need? They probably don't know how to help you and because grief is so personal, they don't want to assume or say/do the wrong thing.
I'll bet your friends are desperate to support you, whatever that means to you, even if it's sat quietly while you cry.
Whatever you are feeling at the moment is "right".

Thanks again , crazy thing is m good at giving others advice on what to do especially to tell others how you feel but I'm no good at sharing my own emotions , so mn looked like a way round things . Sorry I can't share all the back story as its so complicated it would also out me because of the circumstances and subsequent events .

There is no need to explain anything that you don't want to but we are here just to listen if you do want to talk about how you are feeling.

Sometimes it helps just to write things down to help clear you mind for a moment or two.

Thanks Rizlett, thing is I really do want to tell you the back story but I can't because I know it will out me and because of other stuff still going on I darent for fear someone might use it against me, it's called step children 😢 I know my husband would be devastated

How about writing out your back story but not posting it on here. It might help just getting some of your concerns down on paper.

You feel your husband would be devastated about what's gone on since he died?

Would you like to talk more about how you are feeling today?

Thanks Rizlett, yes my husband would be totally devastated, I also know that he'd know I could cope ! So with that now firmly n my mind I'm going to. I think I just reached a crisis point yesterday and needed to put my hand out for help, so thank you for your support it's appreciated.
I'm felling stronger this morning and I know deep down I will cope and get through.