How do I stop feeling so sad about dad?

[mollyt]

Hello I just wondered if any of you had any words of wisdom please. My dad died suddenly 2 months ago and I seem to be getting sadder and sadder.initially I was having peaks and troughs but now I'm just stuck in this loop of sadness. I've also really noticed that friends who were initially sending texts asking how I was have kind of tailed off a bit almost like I've had my time to grieve and now I need to move on. Anyone further on in the process? Any words of wisdom gratefully received as I'm feeling terribly on my own with it all.x
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Sorry for all your losses. I lost my DF last week. I lost my DM 7 years ago.
I feel so alone and can’t imagine never seeing him again.
When my DM died, I had my dad to ‘look after’ (I think he looked after me as much as I did him) but now there’s no one.
I have a DB, we get on well and our kids are very close, but I still feel lost and feel like our family has been wiped out way too soon.
Can’t stop the tears at all today.
for you all.

Oh laptop I'm so sorry I was only thinking this week we have DM who got cancer first and how devastating it would be to have no parents.they are like friends too..mostly I've been OK since df died however my dsis has bad days.
I have no idea how Christmas will affect us as there is always sentimental music.I have to work though so I'm just taking each day as it comes.love to you all xx

I lost my dad very suddenly 27 yrs ago , I still have moments but I think the 6 month point was the worst for me . I agree with pp who said certain things get to you mine was the birth of the dc , the day I turned 45 as at that point I had lived for longer without him than I'd had him for IYSWIM and then when I turned 51 as he was 51 and a month when he died .

Thanks Whatisfortea

The funeral is tomorrow, so I’m where you are when you first posted. I don’t know how I’m going to get through it.

All I know OP is that the intense pain and grief do lessen as time passes, and that the wave analogy in that ‘old man’ story another poster posted is very true.

It’s a sad fact that losing a parent (or both) means that’s life events are always tinged with sadness because they’re not there to share it with you. It gets easier though, I promise (need to keep reminding myself of this today)

You will get through the funeral.....I thought months ago I wouldn't cope as I suffer panic attacks...in reality it was a lovely day that Dad would've loved and been surprised how many people showed their respects.Sending you strength xx