Grandfather dying

[lucieloos]

My grandfather recently had a massive stroke and is going down hill. They don't think he will be with us much longer. He has been a massive part of my life and I'm finding it so upsetting. He can't move or speak and he's barely awake anymore. I have a baby who is 3.5 months old and he adored her but only got to see her a few times. I can't get over the guilt that i didn't take her to see him more while I had the chance. We shared lots of photos with him on a nearly daily basis and he absolutely loved seeing them. It's so hard to have regrets though. Is this normal. Does it get easier?

I'm sorry about your grandfather. My grandfather died when my daughter was 4m old but I'm not sure he met her more than a couple of times, despite living 20 mins away. I felt bad a lot, but 4 years later I've forgiven myself... having a newborn is hard, and I was very tired as she never slept through. I've got lovely photos of my DD and grandfather together when she was a few days old. It will just have to do.