Friend just died at 38 of cancer

[Chattycat78]

Someone help me reconcile this. Friend was diagnosed 2 years ago- terminal at that point akready.

After 2 years of chemo/trials/etc she lost her struggle last night. She was only just 38. So no bloody age to die!

How is this right/fair?!!!

It's not Chatty. It's totally awful and unfair. Having experienced several early deaths over the years, there is nothing that can prepare you for it or the bewilderment after. Do you have good support from family and friends?

Yes. Thank you. I'm just struggling with the almost ridiculousness of it. I know bad thing happen, but still.

I am so sorry. It isn't fair.

for your friend and for you

It's utterly shit, miss my friend dreadfully

I'm really sorry to hear about your friend .

I had a school friend die at 39 from cancer. He was diagnosed at 24 which is just so young and spent so long fighting it.

I had dd2 shortly before he died and it absolutely rocked my world.

It's absolutely not right or fair. It's such an utter bastard cancer.

I'm so sorry. For you. For your friend. For her family.

Its not fair. Not at all. It's not right. It's not the way things are meant to be.

I'm so sorry.

Yes.x

Her dad is 80 and now will have to bury her

One of my best friends died of cancer at 30.

I went to see him in the hospice and rang his wife (also one of my best friends) on the way in and asked her if she needed anything.

She said bananas.

I went to Waitrose and stood in front of the banana stand. They were arranged green to ripe. I looked at the green side and thought 'well, there's no point getting those'.

I'm sorry OP. It sucks and it really isn't fair

I'm so sorry Chatty. It's not fair and it's not right. No parent should have to bury their child. 38 is no age at all.

I'm so so sorry, really I am. I wish I could say something to make it better.

I'm a florist, my first client was a chap that was burying his 35 year old daughter who had died within weeks of being diagnosed with ovarian cancer. He was a big fella, 6 foot plus shooting fishing type and he sat and cried and cried as we picked out flowers for her coffin, and never for her wedding bouquet.

It's a cruel, indiscriminate wanker of a disease. My own best friend died two years ago leaving a husband and young children. It takes your breath with shock at the most unexpected times.

I'm so sorry for your awful loss OP.

Thanks all.

The story of the poor guy who didn't get to pick wedding bouquet flowers for his daughter is awful

A dear friend of mine died aged 27 from secondary lung cancer. His funeral was on the day that I was rushed into hospital to have emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. I never got to say goodbye.

So sorry for your loss

It's rotten, isn't it. It never seems fair, and it isn't. But sadly, untimely death is a painful fact of life. sorry for your loss. It sucks, I know.

Her name was Sarah OP. It's fucking awful, but you carry their names in your heart.

My cousin died from Cancer in her early 20's, leaving her 4 year old dd.

She had a year from diagnosis and spent most of that in terrible pain.

All the women in our family walked her out of her road for the last time. Her poor mum could barely walk. Watching her dd play at her wake was heartbreaking.

Life is not fair.

My children's teacher died last year from cancer aged 40. She had young children of her own. Everyone at school was devastated, she was very well liked and respected. Her funeral service was absolutely heaving. Hundreds of parents and children came. Such a lovely tribute to such a lovely lady.

My parents died of cancer. My lovely DMil died of cancer. Even my dog died of cancer. Sick to fucking death of cancer.

I'm so sorry, it's just devastating. Scream, cry, howl at the moon if it helps. Cancer is a bastard.

It's unbelievably unfair and such a cruel disease.

I lost my 18 year old son to cancer. It's indiscriminate, it's horrific and I don't think I will ever come to terms not only with his death but the suffering he endured for so long.

Big hugs to you.

Oh goodness. The chap getting his daughter's funeral flowers, not wedding bouquet.

DSis's best friend refused treatment after 10 years of chemo, surgery and pain. She had a hysterectomy and 24 and died at 34. Cancer is a bastard.

It's not fair Chattycat78.
I'm sorry for your loss.

Its not fair. Cancer is a indiscriminate bastard that doesn't care about age.
I'm so sorry.

Min. X.
Love and thoughts to others who have lost loved ones.