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Brother's passing has really affected me...

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NooNooHead · 28/08/2017 19:54

My brother passed away from terminal cancer a week ago - he was only 34. If this wasn't awful enough, I got told by my employer that they didn't need my services any more (I'm a freelancer) and I had an ectopic pregnancy in March after 6 years of really wanting a sibling for my DD.

I am sick of getting through all of the crap in my life - ever since I moved house three years ago to start a better life, it's done the complete opposite. After battling through a head injury, breakdown, concussion and drug induced movement disorder, I feel like I'm never getting any bloody respite.

I just want someone to take it all away and say I'll be happy again. Deep down, in my heart, I am broken. Broken because of fighting all the pain constantly... fighting the losses of things I love and want the most and not knowing how to carry on without feeling really sad.

My dad was being v honest with me last night when he was chatting about my poor DB and saying he was a really horrid person, very strange, and never showed any gratitude etc - all true but it was so sad to hear. I am heartbroken by my brother's passing away and was in pieces looking at some of his possessions this morning.

My life seems to be ok from the outside and I do have a lot to be grateful for - good home, beautiful daughter and supportive loving family and friends - but inside I am so so tired of having such a tough time emotionally. Words can't express the depth of my pain, I was crying so much last night that it hurt me physically.

I just want to go to sleep and wake up to something better.

OP posts:
1234hello · 28/08/2017 21:35

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Sadly it is common/normal for one loss to trigger feeling of previous losses and generally exacerbate low mood, and make you question why life is so shit sometimes etc.

Please be kind to yourself, it sounds like you're actually doing ok as you are able to recognise you have things to be grateful for. I do understand how crap it all is though and you have very right to feel sad, bewildered, and disillusioned. Just focus on getting through each day and keeping the basics going (eating, drinking, rest, some gentle exercise).

And the crying is probably necessary, painful and distressing though it can be.

Things will get easier, seek support wherever you can find it.

Hugs and Flowers to you

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