10yo missing her grandad

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My Dad died suddenly about 3 months ago after complications from surgery. He went from being fine after the surgery to having a massive bleed in the middle of thr night. He was taken back to surgery and then to ICU but he never woke up.

Obviously it meant DDs never got to say goodbye. They hadn't even really known he was ill (cancerous lump, but good prognosis).

We've muddled through as best we could but poor DD1 has been distraught for the past week - a few things triggered it (a day out with DM who obviously still talks about DDad a lot, and finding some cards from him are probably the obvious ones).

I'm trying to support DM and hold myself together and help DD and I'm just at a loss what to do. And I can just see it getting worse rather than better with the new school year starting - DDad was great at going to concerts and plays and sports events, so every time there is one on, he'll be missed.

She was so close to her grandad and my heart is just breaking for her and I just don't know what to do to help her.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and your situation sounds so difficult. Im afraid I don't have any advice but I hope someone will be along soon.

Winstons Wish were a great support for my son when my Dad died.
They do a book called Muddles Puddles And Sunshine.
here

Sorry book <a class="break-all" href="https://shop.winstonswish.org.uk/products/muddles-puddles-and-www.winstonswish.org.uk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here

Sorry HERE

When my Mum passed away, my dd aged 11 cried because nothing would ever be the same again. Dd wrote a letter that was placed in Mum's coffin (she didn't attend the funeral) and then created a memory box - photos of the two of them plus ornaments and pictures of things that dd associated with Mum.

Dd was just about to start secondary school, I let the school know and they were able to offer her some support sessions for when it 'hit' her. She went to the support office a couple of times when she felt overwhelmed with grief in the month following the death and the school were very supportive.

Hope that helps

Thanks all. I'll have a look at that book, it looks good.

Good point about letting the school know she's struggling. The school were incredible for both her and DD2 when it happened. But with a new teacher this year for DD1 it's probably worth mentioning.

He's now in the aisle stretched out and refusing to move. We are in the buffet car and he can smell the food!!!

WHOOPS wrong thread sorry,!!