Is it normal to feel sad every year at this time of year...

[maddiemookins16mum]

....Sometimes I just want to shake myself and get a grip but...it happens every July/August. My mum died on the 30 August 2013. I just recall every day of her last few weeks each year about this time. 2013 was a hot summer, Andy won Wimbledon (the first time), it drives me mad (not helped by seeing FB posts from 4 years ago that pop up). Is it just me (as I'm pretty much ok most of the time, Christmas aside).

While I haven't experienced a number of anniversaries of my DH's death (mid 2016), I was shocked at just how much the run-up to it, about 5-6 weeks, really got me down. I only recognised it looking back. The day itself was lovely, going out with DD.

It may change with time, but I wouldn't bank on it. You don't need a grip, maddiemookins, you loved your mum.

Yes, it is normal.

It does get less raw as the year's march on. 11 years for me since my mum died.

Normal from my point of view. It's just over 12 years since I lost my mum. I still find the day she was diagnosed hard right through to the day she died.
I don't think you ever get over it, you just start learning to live with it.

My mum actually died the same day as yours (different year), so I very much get where you are coming from.

I know exactly the feelings you are describing, am feeling the same way myself. First anniversary of losing my lovely Mum fast approaching and I am finding it hard going.

for all the losses.

Totally normal. I lost my dad nearly 25 years ago and I still get this. I'm aware it's going to happen now of course so I can prepare myself a bit but to be honest I'm not sure if it helps that I know it's coming or makes it worse. Be kind to yourself.

It's 3 years for me next week that I lost my dad. I've realised this week that I'm getting more upset as the date approaches. I've noticed my mum filling up a lot more lately too. We manage throughout the year, even on his birthday, maybe all these other dates bring up happier memories but this time of year we relive that awful time with its awful emotions and always will I'm afraid. x

Thinking of you today xx