How can I survive?

[canis]

My baby was just a week old and perfect, and now she is gone. How am I meant to survive this? My whole world has collapsed and I feel like I am suffocating. Do people really get through this? DD is my first, I'm a mum without my baby now. What is the point?

You will get through this. It is a horrendous time for you but you will get through it somehow. Do you have any real life support? Can you tell us what happened to her? Sorry for your loss.

be very very gentle with yourself please. I have been there and nothing I can say will make it any easier but I'm here to listen if you want to tell us about her. To answer you're question, yes, it does get easier and you can survive it. The point is to live on, if you cant find a reason tight now then ill tell you the reason I found; to spread the word about your beautiful little girl and tell everyone of her so the world can never forget her.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you. I don't have any wise words, but am thinking of you and your beautiful little girl

I am so sorry for your loss. It is unimaginable.

Keep talking. We are listening.

Sending you love and strength

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People can and do get through it, please be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time.

Didn't want to read and run. I have no words of wisdom, but I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you have strong people around you to comfort you at this awful time.

We don't what happened but it was very sudden. Stupid I like what you said about living on for her. I don't know what I'm trying to get from this, I know there is support out there. I'm just stuck and unable to move. It helps to know other people do get through this.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I've never got that far so can't even imagine, but I think for now just keep breathing. Keep talking to your loved ones. Be gentle on yourself and don't judge yourself for any feelings you have.

What was your daughter's name? Do you want to tell us about her?

Didn't want to read and run. I don't know if this sounds strange, but I am in awe of the strength people have who go through this. You are incredibly strong and will make it through this pain. But I'm so sorry you're having to.

My baby died at birth. The thought of getting through my life without her seemed impossible. I thought I would never be happy again. It did take about 2 years for me to feel "normal".
I was given some very good advice at the time and I hope you don't mind if I share it. What you are experiencing is huge. Don't try to "deal with it". Just try to get through each day. Every day, set yourself a small list of things to do. At this stage getting up, getting dressed, eating something and leaving the house at least once is plenty.
Don't feel bad about feeling utterly destroyed- your daughter meant everything to you and she deserves to be mourned and missed. Little by little, the grief will ease and become a part of you.
When I was suicidal a friend asked me how my daughter would have felt about me using her death as an excuse for ending my own life. It was harsh but it made me think about what she would have liked her legacy to be. I tried to use my understanding of how I'd suffered to make me more compassionate towards other people's difficulties. I'm not sure if I've succeeded with that, but it feels more like something good has come out of the whole awful situation.

How are you doing Canis? You've been in my thoughts. We are here if you do want to talk

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little baby.
My daughter died at birth 5 months ago.
It hasn't got easier as such but my grief has changed - those first few weeks and early months the grief was all consuming, I felt so guilty, so sad - I wouldn't leave the house, I was scared what people might say or do, scared of how I could be back in the world again without my baby. I'm still unbelievably sad - I think about her every second of everyday and what she would be like or what we would be doing now if she had lived but I've started to have better times and moments. I have began to laugh again at somethings and have been venturing out a little more. Similar to what @ZippyCameBack said I don't want losing my daughter to only bring sadness to my life or for her to be the thing that broke me - I would never want anyone to think this about her.
Something that have really helped me are SANDS groups (I was so so nervous about going but everyone was lovely and it was nice to talk to people who truly knew what I was feeling), joining the SANDS online forum (for the same reason - this is a private forum for parents who have lost a baby shortly before/during birth or in the first few weeks - I've had some amazing advice here), I had some counselling through work which although I didn't find particularly useful I enjoyed the scheduled time just to sit and talk about my little girl and how much she meant to me. I also tried making myself small goals each day/week/month. I still get terrible days but they are not as often as when I first lost her and I am able to get through them a little better now. Someone told me - don't feel guilty about having a little happiness in your life now - grief is hard, painful and exhausting and you need some happiness and good moments to help you build you reserves to get through the truly awful moments when they come. Xxx
The only other advice I can give you is people will say some STUPID crap - they mean well but some of the stuff they have said to me and to friends who have lost babies at birth or at a few weeks old are truly ridiculous - try not to dwell on what they say. no-one understands what if feels like until they have lost a baby themselves. Sending you hugs and some positivity for the upcoming days