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Too many deaths recently

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AugustRose · 26/07/2017 23:53

Since the end of March we have had 4 deaths, 2 older aunts in their late 80s, our close friend took his own life age 46 and now my stepmum has has died age 63.

I have never thought about my own mortality and that of those around me more closely than in the last few months. My dad is 70 and as he will be buried with my stepmum her burial has affected me badly.

My stepdad is also 70 and in poor health, my mum is 66 this year and although she seems OK she had an aneurism last year that needed operated on.

I am 43 and DH is 47, I know as you get older this happens but we also lost a baby at full term almost 8 years ago and now I just keep waiting for the next person.

I don't really have any reason for this post, I think I just needed somewhere to put it.

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Dawnedlightly · 26/07/2017 23:57
Flowers That's an awful lot to cope with. I'm so sorry all this has happened. Have you got real life support? A friend outside your family?
bellabelly · 26/07/2017 23:57

Sorry to hear that you've had so many losses recently. It must be tough to cope with. I lost my FIL in January and it's affected me in ways I wouldn't have expected. Not comfortable to consider one's own mortality.

NancyCarolinesHeadtorch · 26/07/2017 23:59

Me too. An elderly aunt in March, another probably soon and my Dad last week. It sucks. I'm with you Flowers

AugustRose · 27/07/2017 00:09

I'm sorry for your losses too Flowers

I do have support thankfully, I think I'm finding it hard because we live 90 miles away from our families so I have been travelling back and forth a lot and am very tired.

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bellabelly · 27/07/2017 00:23

Will you have a chance to get away for a holiday over the summer and recharge your batteries a bit?

AugustRose · 27/07/2017 00:30

Unfortunately not but we have some friends wanting to come for a short visit in a few weeks, I was reluctant at first but think it might be a good idea.

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NancyCarolinesHeadtorch · 27/07/2017 00:32

Yes grief is ever so tiring.
I've just made plans to see friends - I can't hack much more time with my family. Make sure you take some time for yourself.

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