Counselling

[Katie2878]

Hi has anyone been to counselling to help with grief ?

Yes. My husband died 5 weeks ago after being ill for nearly 3 years. I find it helpful as I do not 'filter' anything I say to her or ask her. Some of the things DH experienced were shocking and I do not want to burden family/ friends. Counsellors are unshockable.

I can talk freely for the first time. It helps. I can cry. Which is tiring, but helps me stay sane.

Good luck.

I have just started going following the death of my DD 8 months ago. Early days yet but I find it easier to talk to someone who is neutral rather than to family members who have their own grief issues.

About ten months after my DH died was when I felt the need for counselling (offered free by DH's employers), but stuff got in the way and the moment passed, and now I don't feel the same need.

My point is not that no-one needs it, or that if you wait it's go away, but the timing can be so different for everyone.

All this reminds me to check up and see if it's still on offer.

Yes. About 6 months after my husband's death. I found it very helpful and agree that my counsellor was unshockable. It helped me to accept what had happened.

Yes, when my dad died. I was not in a good place - two small children, one still a baby really. Still recovering from physical illness related to the pregnancy. Stressful job, dealing with terminally I'll. Dad told me I had to be the "strong" one, for everyone else.

Eventually, I just cracked, and the GP sent me for counseling. It literally changed my life.

I've started going to counselling this week. My Dad died at the end of June and I feel the need to be strong for my family it inside I'm a mess. I loved the fact that I could let all of my thoughts and feelings out and cry if I wanted to without worrying about what he thought. The councillor thinks that I'm being too hard on myself.

I'm thinking of going/asking for counselling, I've just lost both of my parents in the space of 11 weeks and I'm not coping too well. I'm also 23 weeks pregnant. I'm not sure if it will help?

I'm really sorry to hear that. I would really recommend counselling, it's worth trying even if it doesn't help. Many years ago mMum lost both of her elderly parents a day after each other. She wasn't offered counselling but I'm sure it would have helped her to process all of her thoughts and feelings.