My dad died a year ago and I found out today

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My mum said oh your dads house is being renovated. My childhood home. So we looked it up on zoopla and sure enough it was sold in October. I texted my sister who I'm
Not usually in contact with. She replied it was 8/7/2016 I thought you knew. I didn't know. We hadn't spoken for 10 years. Dad and I. My sister says she wrote to me but I've moved - that's not her fault but I thought they might have tried harder to contact me.

So I have no cause of death. He was 95. No chance to save something from the house I dunno a book or something not items of value.
I'm just in shock.

I don't really have any advice but that's really sad and I'm sorry for your loss. for you

Sorry, but you stopped talking to your dad when he was 85 & are shocked that he's dead 10 years later? Or shocked that having moved and not given her your address, your sister didn't manage to contact you?

Ive had the same phone number about 15 years. Which my sister has.

You can apply for a copy of his death certificate op - to find out the cause.

It's still a shock though and weirdly can feel as though it only happened today and not a year ago.

I know riz. Do I need to know? I dunno really. I don't know if he died at home in hospital
Anything.

I guess you haven't been talking to your sister either - maybe she didn't feel she could call you? Or perhaps she thought it would be better in a letter.

Nothing can be done now just a bit stunned

I'm sorry for your loss OP but if you go NC with an 85 year old this is going to happen.

I suppose when you didn't answer her letter she presumed that was that.

She presumably has some of the house stuff, it had to go somewhere. You could ask her to look through what's left.

Will knowing make a difference to you?

It's difficult when you hear something like this and there is nothing you can do.

Maybe wait and see how you feel after a week or so.