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Feeling like leaving partner

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MyqueenMyrock · 11/07/2017 21:27

I have a very ill grandad, I don't know how long he has left, he brought me up and has always been there for me through everything.

He's not "himself" anymore if that makes sense, he's lying in bed emotional less not knowing who anyone is and repeating words that don't make much sense, I'm heartbroken that I am losing him.

After seeing him tonight it has really hit and upset me, when we got home (myself. Dd, dp) I went upstairs for an hour by myself. I came back down to dp abruptly saying "Have you been asleep?!" I hadn't but was obviously upset.

Dd in bed and just been sat on the sofa dp hasn't said a word to me, is just sat on the opposite side on his phone, I've came back up and got into bed!

I don't know what I'm expecting, I don't know if it's just me with how I'm feeling but I really have the urge to just tell him to fuck off, I'm losing a person that means so so much to me and I just don't think he understands? Just sat on his phone. Do I sound pathetic?
I'm devastated and my dp can't even say anything to me or show anything while I'm feeling like this.

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OnceMoreIntoTheBleach · 11/07/2017 22:50

Flowers it's a long drawn-out grief when someone is in such a bad way, I know. You start to grieve before they die and it can be a long time.

Have you talked to your P about how this feels for you? That's the first thing. If he still refuses to see you're hurting, he's not worth your time.

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach · 11/07/2017 22:50

And no, it's not pathetic to feel this way Flowers

MyqueenMyrock · 11/07/2017 23:09

Thank you for taking your time to reply.

I've never lost anyone before so it really is heartbreaking. Really hits me thinking about the past and how I won't have him in my life.

I will speak to my partner thank you xx

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cestlavielife · 11/07/2017 23:10

Get some pre bereavement coy selling

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