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my mum

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maxoverload · 01/07/2017 23:24

I lost my mum 10 weeks ago. She had a heart attack 2 years ago and had a triple heart bypass. She recovered and just after new year my older sister died. I loved my sister. I dont think my mum could handle her death and went down hill afterwards. I was with my mum everyday. She fell and had a bleed on the brain and didnt wake up again. I miss her so much. I miss my sister but losingy mum is killing me. Some days im ok and i worry that i didnt love my ds enough or my dm. Some days i dont want to get out of bed. I dont expect any replys but i just needed to get my thoughts down. Lots of typis here

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Frazzle76 · 01/07/2017 23:30

Sending lots and lots of love and hugs. I lost my mum in January after a horrific cancer illness. I still cry everyday and the constant ache is still there. Everytime I feel alone I come on here and look at the bereavement pages to remind myself I'm not alone and there are other people going through this right now.
Try Cruse bereavement counselling, be kind to yourself, grief and love make us who we are.
It's still early days and you've had one shock after another. Keep reminding yourself it's ok to be grieving. Xx

Spadequeen · 01/07/2017 23:32

My dad died suddenly just under a month ago. It's so fucking shit. There are no words.

Sending you both hugs.

Original poster
maxoverload · 01/07/2017 23:38

Thank you so much.

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Hotpinkangel19 · 02/07/2017 11:54

Sorry for your loss OP Flowers I lost my mum on 5th June, it's a horrible thing to be going through xx

dingit · 03/07/2017 21:17

Can I join you? My dad died on 25th June 2017 in Corfu after a weeks holiday. My mum was with him. I flew out with my sister but we didn't get there in time. I'm still numb with shock.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 04/07/2017 14:35

I found my mum dead back in April, also heart related, OP. I've been very productively slobbing around in bed for the past two days. 😳 Am going to get up for a class this evening and am working tomorrow so at least that'll stop me developing pressure sores. 😳😳

Some days are definitely better than others. I think one just have to accept that grief can be a one-step-forward-two-steps-back kind of process. You've also had a double whammy to deal with. 🌺

notanurse2017 · 04/07/2017 14:45

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SoftBlocks · 04/07/2017 14:50

So sorry to read about what you've been through. Be kind to yourself Flowers

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